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8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back
Growing up in the South in the late 60's, early 70's I was taught manners, respect and chivalry. Men of good families strove to become gentlemen. It was all I knew until I went off to join the Air Force as a teenager.
Boarding a bus to leave basic training for my technical school, I saw a young lady struggling to load her duffle bag into the baggage compartment of the bus. Without thinking, I bent over and grabbed the handle of her duffle bag to lift it for her. Her reaction shocked me to the core. She bolted upright and hissed at me in a regional accent I won't mention, "I don't need your F$#king help. I can do it!" This was only half the snub to my gallantry. Half the kids in the boarding group didn't bat an eye. The other half were shocked at her vulgar outburst and snub.
Like many teenagers over the centuries who left home to join the service, I was surrounded for the first time by people from vastly different regions. Not everyone put chivalry, manners and respect on the top shelf. For the next 37 years, I travelled all over the U.S. and a bit of the world. I continued to open doors, give up my seat and generally treat ladies with the respect and honor my culture taught me they are overwhelmingly entitled to. For the most part, the ladies seemed pleased by the respect shown to them. In certain regions of the U.S., my manners were greeted with contempt.
Manners are the grease that makes the gears of civilizations run smooth. Women are the bedrock of all civilizations. Ladies are those fine creatures we adore and look up to who make us all want to be better people.
I thought I was a lone survivor of a dying race until a friend of my wife posted this on her FB page. This young man wants to bring back Chivalry. An advice column like this would have never been given ink in my day. That it is necessary today speaks volumes. Hope springs eternal.
8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back
by James Sama
The more women I talk to, the more I realize that the gentleman is a rare breed. The mission of the New Chivalry Movement is to bring men (and women) together who strive to be the best versions of themselves and love and respect those around them.
As the gentleman has become less prominent, so have the respectful acts that define him.
Here are 8 acts of chivalry we often overlook and should work to bring back.
Giving up your seat.
Whether on a bus or on a crowded subway, giving up your seat to another is a rare but great sign of respect. I always cringe a bit when I see a woman or elderly person forced to stand while young men remain distracted by their phones. It all comes down to being aware of your surroundings and acting accordingly.
Only one in seven men will offer their seat to a woman on a train or bus.
Pulling out a woman’s chair.
This one, as many others, is simple but rare. You don’t have to run around to your date’s side of the table to make sure you pull out her chair each time, but when convenient, it’s a nice extra touch.
Less than one in five men will regularly pull out a chair for a woman to sit down. That’s under 20%.
8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back | James Michael Sama
Growing up in the South in the late 60's, early 70's I was taught manners, respect and chivalry. Men of good families strove to become gentlemen. It was all I knew until I went off to join the Air Force as a teenager.
Boarding a bus to leave basic training for my technical school, I saw a young lady struggling to load her duffle bag into the baggage compartment of the bus. Without thinking, I bent over and grabbed the handle of her duffle bag to lift it for her. Her reaction shocked me to the core. She bolted upright and hissed at me in a regional accent I won't mention, "I don't need your F$#king help. I can do it!" This was only half the snub to my gallantry. Half the kids in the boarding group didn't bat an eye. The other half were shocked at her vulgar outburst and snub.
Like many teenagers over the centuries who left home to join the service, I was surrounded for the first time by people from vastly different regions. Not everyone put chivalry, manners and respect on the top shelf. For the next 37 years, I travelled all over the U.S. and a bit of the world. I continued to open doors, give up my seat and generally treat ladies with the respect and honor my culture taught me they are overwhelmingly entitled to. For the most part, the ladies seemed pleased by the respect shown to them. In certain regions of the U.S., my manners were greeted with contempt.
Manners are the grease that makes the gears of civilizations run smooth. Women are the bedrock of all civilizations. Ladies are those fine creatures we adore and look up to who make us all want to be better people.
I thought I was a lone survivor of a dying race until a friend of my wife posted this on her FB page. This young man wants to bring back Chivalry. An advice column like this would have never been given ink in my day. That it is necessary today speaks volumes. Hope springs eternal.
8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back
by James Sama
The more women I talk to, the more I realize that the gentleman is a rare breed. The mission of the New Chivalry Movement is to bring men (and women) together who strive to be the best versions of themselves and love and respect those around them.
As the gentleman has become less prominent, so have the respectful acts that define him.
Here are 8 acts of chivalry we often overlook and should work to bring back.
Giving up your seat.
Whether on a bus or on a crowded subway, giving up your seat to another is a rare but great sign of respect. I always cringe a bit when I see a woman or elderly person forced to stand while young men remain distracted by their phones. It all comes down to being aware of your surroundings and acting accordingly.
Only one in seven men will offer their seat to a woman on a train or bus.
Pulling out a woman’s chair.
This one, as many others, is simple but rare. You don’t have to run around to your date’s side of the table to make sure you pull out her chair each time, but when convenient, it’s a nice extra touch.
Less than one in five men will regularly pull out a chair for a woman to sit down. That’s under 20%.
8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back | James Michael Sama
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