Chivalry

[Wolfsister77]

I like all those things because they are simple, polite, and I can guarantee they will score you extra points.

 

[g5000]

I remember dad ALWAYS made me walk towards the building side and not the street side. He told me it was because if someone wasn't paying attention, he would get hit by their car instead of me. Maybe he changed it around some, for the day of age sorta thing.

It is also done for the practical reason that in wet weather, if a car splashes a puddle, the water will hit the male instead of the female.

 

[Gracie]

Women also need to do some of the simplest of things as well. I can't count the times I have held a door open coming out of the post office, for the person coming IN the door. Quite a few times, I am struggling to open the door or try to rush thru it when another woman is coming out and it slams me in the back or shoulder because she didn't think enough to see someone with an arm full coming IN.

Plus, opening doors is a bitch for me. My wrists don't bend in certain ways. Of course they don't know that, but still...being polite so the door doesn't hit someone on the ass would be nice.

 

[Wolfsister77]

That just reminded me once that I was rushing through a door, late for work, did not realize there was someone behind me. I was waiting to cross the street and this woman came up to me and said, "thanks a lot" very angrily. I asked what the problem was and she said I closed a door on her.

I apologized and said I didn't see her and she just glared and me and said nothing. So I told her to have a nice day and crossed the street but I really wanted to give her the finger.

So, you should always be thankful if someone holds a door or does something polite but don't expect everyone to do it for you and don't expect if they don't, that they are being rude on purpose.

I always hold doors if someone is right behind me. This woman wasn't. She was just a nasty bitch or hadn't had her coffee yet or whatever.

 

[Esmeralda]

8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back


Growing up in the South in the late 60's, early 70's I was taught manners, respect and chivalry. Men of good families strove to become gentlemen. It was all I knew until I went off to join the Air Force as a teenager.

Boarding a bus to leave basic training for my technical school, I saw a young lady struggling to load her duffle bag into the baggage compartment of the bus. Without thinking, I bent over and grabbed the handle of her duffle bag to lift it for her. Her reaction shocked me to the core. She bolted upright and hissed at me in a regional accent I won't mention, "I don't need your F$#king help. I can do it!" This was only half the snub to my gallantry. Half the kids in the boarding group didn't bat an eye. The other half were shocked at her vulgar outburst and snub.

Like many teenagers over the centuries who left home to join the service, I was surrounded for the first time by people from vastly different regions. Not everyone put chivalry, manners and respect on the top shelf. For the next 37 years, I travelled all over the U.S. and a bit of the world. I continued to open doors, give up my seat and generally treat ladies with the respect and honor my culture taught me they are overwhelmingly entitled to. For the most part, the ladies seemed pleased by the respect shown to them. In certain regions of the U.S., my manners were greeted with contempt.

Manners are the grease that makes the gears of civilizations run smooth. Women are the bedrock of all civilizations. Ladies are those fine creatures we adore and look up to who make us all want to be better people.

I thought I was a lone survivor of a dying race until a friend of my wife posted this on her FB page. This young man wants to bring back Chivalry. An advice column like this would have never been given ink in my day. That it is necessary today speaks volumes. Hope springs eternal.




8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back
by James Sama

The more women I talk to, the more I realize that the gentleman is a rare breed. The mission of the New Chivalry Movement is to bring men (and women) together who strive to be the best versions of themselves and love and respect those around them.

As the gentleman has become less prominent, so have the respectful acts that define him.

Here are 8 acts of chivalry we often overlook and should work to bring back.

Giving up your seat.

Whether on a bus or on a crowded subway, giving up your seat to another is a rare but great sign of respect. I always cringe a bit when I see a woman or elderly person forced to stand while young men remain distracted by their phones. It all comes down to being aware of your surroundings and acting accordingly.

Only one in seven men will offer their seat to a woman on a train or bus.

Pulling out a woman’s chair.

This one, as many others, is simple but rare. You don’t have to run around to your date’s side of the table to make sure you pull out her chair each time, but when convenient, it’s a nice extra touch.

Less than one in five men will regularly pull out a chair for a woman to sit down. That’s under 20%.



8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back | James Michael Sama

The thing about this guy is that he is young, very young and with little life experience. Also, very little wisdom. Life isn't about manufacturing things to do for people. Everyone should be courteous to each other. When a gesture is patronizing, no one likes it. A lot of what men think is chivalrous is patronizing, and, therefore, offensive. However, being polite and mannerly is always welcome, but it is a two way street. People should help people, not men thinking if they pull out a chair that is making some particularly wonderful gesture to a woman. Lots of men think those chivalrous gestures are enough and are rude the rest of the time. Misplaced value on 'chivalrous' conduct is the problem. Be polite, helpful and mannerly to everyone: that is the sign of a true gentleman.