Female coworker invites me to her house???

[ChrisL]

I can't offer good advice on this subject. Being invited to a party by an attractive co-worker usually means they like you, might even entertain having sex with you in the back of their minds, but 95% of the time it means nothing. I call it a test. Do the wrong thing and life at work will become unbearable. Fail to show up and you're screwed already. Assume it's friendly, platonic, and just good fun and if she grabs your dick all bets are off. Just hope she doesn't.

Well, I tend to think it means nothing. Inviting a person over to watch the game is not really a date, especially when there are going to be other people there. I think she just wants to be friends.

Or it could be a safe way for her to hang out with him around other people with no pressure, either way he should just go with a friendly positive attitude and see where it takes him.

Could be, but I think men tend to read to much into these kinds of things sometimes. She might just want to be friends and nothing more. Some people always seem to think there is an ulterior motive.

 

[Iceweasel]

Guys . . . they are so dumb sometimes.

Not necessarily dumb, just that everything revolves around sex. She either wants to have sex with him or maybe she wants him to have sex with someone else or she may not want to have sex with him so she's having sex with someone else so if he has sex with her is that going to complicate things at work?

 

[ChrisL]

Go. Bring junk food or beer.

Guys . . . they are so dumb sometimes.

Not necessarily dumb, just that everything revolves around sex. She either wants to have sex with him or maybe she wants him to have sex with someone else or she may not want to have sex with him so she's having sex with someone else so if he has sex with her is that going to complicate things at work?[/QUOTE]

That's the problem, for sure. Sex, sex, sex. Maybe she just wants to be friends and sex with him or other co workers hasn't even occurred to her?

 

[mudwhistle]

Putting sex aside, this is a time to bring out the alpha-male in yourself. Girls are intrigued by shy guys, but that gets boring before long. Girls like guys who are confident and at ease with anyone. Don't be obnoxious, but don't be a wallflower. If you have something in common with these folks enter into discussions with them. In this case football.

Oh, fuck it. It's nothing but bad news. Just hope for the best. Jealousy is always in play when you're the new guy. Don't step on any toes. It's going to be only too easily, especially if your co-worker is a real catch.

 

[Iceweasel]

I've got my money on the sex angle. I think the whole NFL/Thanksgiving football thing is a ploy to get him in the sack. You know how women are.

 

[Alex.]

I have become really cool with this woman on my job and we discovered we have a common interest which is the NFL. So we mess with each other throughout the day and that lead to her asking me for my facebook page. So I gave it to her and she responds to my stats on facebook at her desk. Then she said I am welcomed to come to her house to watch the game on Thanksgiving with other football fans???

I only been on the job 10 months and was shocked she is that comfortable with me. So I don't know if she is trying to hook me up with a friend of hers or trying to hook me with herself.

What do you think? Im kind of a shy guy so I just been chatting with her at the job and on FB so not sure what the invite to her house was all about

Be yourself, she obviously likes you for what you show in a workplace setting. Even if you have another more important commitment or do not want to go it does not matter. If you do go get rid of any expectations for anything further than what she invited you for, it saves on nerves and over thinking. What you may find at the end of this rainbow is a very nice friendship or more, just let it happen.

 

[mudwhistle]

I've got my money on the sex angle. I think the whole NFL/Thanksgiving football thing is a ploy to get him in the sack. You know how women are.

Not really.

Women like emotional stimulus rather than physical stimulus.

 

[Michelle420]

What do you want to happen?

 

[Iceweasel]

I've got my money on the sex angle. I think the whole NFL/Thanksgiving football thing is a ploy to get him in the sack. You know how women are.

Not really.

Women like emotional stimulus rather than physical stimulus.

Tell us more about this emotional thing you speak of.

 

[Darkwind]

I have become really cool with this woman on my job and we discovered we have a common interest which is the NFL. So we mess with each other throughout the day and that lead to her asking me for my facebook page. So I gave it to her and she responds to my stats on facebook at her desk. Then she said I am welcomed to come to her house to watch the game on Thanksgiving with other football fans???

I only been on the job 10 months and was shocked she is that comfortable with me. So I don't know if she is trying to hook me up with a friend of hers or trying to hook me with herself.

What do you think? Im kind of a shy guy so I just been chatting with her at the job and on FB so not sure what the invite to her house was all about

Listen to Tresha. That was good advice.

Here's my advice. For this occasion, leave the blue dildo at home.

LOL

I was going to say, wait to the playoffs before bringing the benwa balls...

 

[Darkwind]

I've got my money on the sex angle. I think the whole NFL/Thanksgiving football thing is a ploy to get him in the sack. You know how women are.

You make it sound so.....................dirty.....


Not that there is anything wrong with that....

 

[mudwhistle]

I've got my money on the sex angle. I think the whole NFL/Thanksgiving football thing is a ploy to get him in the sack. You know how women are.

Not really.

Women like emotional stimulus rather than physical stimulus.

Tell us more about this emotional thing you speak of.

You act like this is a surprise.

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[Darkwind]

I have become really cool with this woman on my job and we discovered we have a common interest which is the NFL. So we mess with each other throughout the day and that lead to her asking me for my facebook page. So I gave it to her and she responds to my stats on facebook at her desk. Then she said I am welcomed to come to her house to watch the game on Thanksgiving with other football fans???

I only been on the job 10 months and was shocked she is that comfortable with me. So I don't know if she is trying to hook me up with a friend of hers or trying to hook me with herself.

What do you think? Im kind of a shy guy so I just been chatting with her at the job and on FB so not sure what the invite to her house was all about

NEVER mix business with pleasure.
Co workers are NOT your friends.
30 years ago, making friends with co-workers was possible.
In today's "gotcha world" it's just too dangerous.
When it comes to business mixing with non business, it is common for people to let their guard down. Things that may be said in levity can come back to burn the person who said them. For example, an off color joke. A sexual double entendre. An innocent comment about a person of the opposite sex's appearance. A political joke. Or a a commentary on one's political beliefs.
Stick with your own friends. If you're shy, go to a sports bar to watch the games.

Yep. Be sure to check your spine at the door each morning before going to your work station.

I refuse to live that kind of life.

 

[High_Gravity]

I can't offer good advice on this subject. Being invited to a party by an attractive co-worker usually means they like you, might even entertain having sex with you in the back of their minds, but 95% of the time it means nothing. I call it a test. Do the wrong thing and life at work will become unbearable. Fail to show up and you're screwed already. Assume it's friendly, platonic, and just good fun and if she grabs your dick all bets are off. Just hope she doesn't.

Well, I tend to think it means nothing. Inviting a person over to watch the game is not really a date, especially when there are going to be other people there. I think she just wants to be friends.

Or it could be a safe way for her to hang out with him around other people with no pressure, either way he should just go with a friendly positive attitude and see where it takes him.

Could be, but I think men tend to read to much into these kinds of things sometimes. She might just want to be friends and nothing more. Some people always seem to think there is an ulterior motive.

Yeah we do read into these things way more than we should, we mostly want to have sex with pretty girls when they ask us to hang out but they are content to just be friends.

 

[blastoff]

Between now and game day, get her in conversation around the old water cooler or wherever and casually inquire if she swallows.

 

[SmarterThanTheAverageBear]

OP,

She thinks you'd make the great gay friend to invite to the party. Beware, she may try to hook you up with her hairdresser

 

[SmarterThanTheAverageBear]

I can't offer good advice on this subject. Being invited to a party by an attractive co-worker usually means they like you, might even entertain having sex with you in the back of their minds, but 95% of the time it means nothing. I call it a test. Do the wrong thing and life at work will become unbearable. Fail to show up and you're screwed already. Assume it's friendly, platonic, and just good fun and if she grabs your dick all bets are off. Just hope she doesn't.

Well, I tend to think it means nothing. Inviting a person over to watch the game is not really a date, especially when there are going to be other people there. I think she just wants to be friends.

Or it could be a safe way for her to hang out with him around other people with no pressure, either way he should just go with a friendly positive attitude and see where it takes him.

Could be, but I think men tend to read to much into these kinds of things sometimes. She might just want to be friends and nothing more. Some people always seem to think there is an ulterior motive.

Yeah we do read into these things way more than we should, we mostly want to have sex with pretty girls when they ask us to hang out but they are content to just be friends.

Speak for yourself. When a pretty girl talks to Bear, its game on.

 

[mudwhistle]

Between now and game day, get her in conversation around the old water cooler or wherever and casually inquire if she swallows.

Now you're going too far.


It's too much to expect that............on the first date.

But if she does, she's a keeper.

 

[JakeStarkey]

Treat her like a friend, be cool, smile, a little bit cocky and aloof, and if she is interested, she will let you know.

 

[Syriusly]

She is having a football gathering at her house. She likely has a few friends who share her interest, and you look like you fit in that category. Assume it is just that, friends over for the game.

She may be interested in more, but I would go as a friend until she makes flirty vibes (touching you, laughing more than expected at minor funnies, positioning herself near you often). When flirty vibes happen frequently, then start worrying/wondering. Until then, enjoy the game with your new buddy and take the opportunity to meet new buddies.

If you are kinda shy, this is a good oportunity to meet people. Y'all can banter about winners and losers, discuss or cuss calls and plays ... stuff in your comfort zone. Others will get to know and like your humor. Perhaps "the group" will expand and contract, new people. Could be good.

Go. Bring junk food or beer.

All of this......and then see if she spends more time with you than others.
Don't be the first to leave- but don't be the last one to be prepared to leave- if you are getting ready to leave and she invites you to hang out more.....then something might be happening.

ON the other hand- if you show up and are the only guest- that would be a good sign.

Best of luck.