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When the wife is happy what happens that in return makes you happy? Is there anything she does or does it make the environment better without actions?
Seeing a loved one happy is enough. It's not necessarily a game of returns. But there are things in action that can be seen as making me happy from my personal experience. I'm not going to dive into that or anything. At the same time the environment is better without any actions. I grew up in a home where someone was always pissed off with someone else to the point the tension could be cut with a knife. I have a keen sense for that kind of tension in the air, and i do not like it. it's like walking on eggshells. Happy wife, happy life, bro.
I think your main problem here is this sweeping generalization. First, it's not necessarily true, and second, it sounds like a one way street where only dudes spread the happy around. More often than not, i'd have to call that false in my experiences.What I'm saying is that if a guy is happy. He spreads around the happy and described how that happens.
When the wife is happy what happens that in return makes you happy? Is there anything she does or does it make the environment better without actions?
Seeing a loved one happy is enough. It's not necessarily a game of returns. But there are things in action that can be seen as making me happy from my personal experience. I'm not going to dive into that or anything. At the same time the environment is better without any actions. I grew up in a home where someone was always pissed off with someone else to the point the tension could be cut with a knife. I have a keen sense for that kind of tension in the air, and i do not like it. it's like walking on eggshells. Happy wife, happy life, bro.
Like I said bro its stops tension in the air but is no tension really happiness? That was what I said in the OP. I feel you...believe me but that is in essence saying that it keeps the peace.
Has there ever been a time when your wife was happy and all was right with the world?
Answer: NO! What most likely happened is you did some shit you didnt want to do to make her happy ASSUMING that her happiness will lead to your happiness. It wont. The most you can hope for is that the nagging will cease long enough to get some peace but that is false peace. Thats peace that you know cannot be maintained unless you consistently do things you dont want to do which is not making you happy in the first place.
A woman can be happy and it will have nothing to do with you at all. As a guy tho, when we are happy we share in it. When we are happy we WANT our woman to be happy because as a provider it makes you feel good to do so. Ya dig.
What a woman will do is try to convince you that if you do a specific set of things...a specific secret type of way...then that will unlock her happiness. If you've seen any cop show you know what happens when you give in to the Hostage taker. He takes the thing he claimed he really wanted and will ask for more things as long as you play the sucker.
Do not fall for this. Men, put your happiness first. She may even have a problem with the thing that makes you happy. Dont waiver from it because when you do something you like you'll come home a different person. We spread the happy around! She'll even mention how "different" you are afterwards or even better she'll ask when you are doing that thing again whenever you feel angst.
Whatever makes you happy does NOT get in the way of the relationship
I think your main problem here is this sweeping generalization. First, it's not necessarily true, and second, it sounds like a one way street where only dudes spread the happy around. More often than not, i'd have to call that false in my experiences.What I'm saying is that if a guy is happy. He spreads around the happy and described how that happens.
Has there ever been a time when your wife was happy and all was right with the world?
Answer: NO! What most likely happened is you did some shit you didnt want to do to make her happy ASSUMING that her happiness will lead to your happiness. It wont. The most you can hope for is that the nagging will cease long enough to get some peace but that is false peace. Thats peace that you know cannot be maintained unless you consistently do things you dont want to do which is not making you happy in the first place.
A woman can be happy and it will have nothing to do with you at all. As a guy tho, when we are happy we share in it. When we are happy we WANT our woman to be happy because as a provider it makes you feel good to do so. Ya dig.
What a woman will do is try to convince you that if you do a specific set of things...a specific secret type of way...then that will unlock her happiness. If you've seen any cop show you know what happens when you give in to the Hostage taker. He takes the thing he claimed he really wanted and will ask for more things as long as you play the sucker.
Do not fall for this. Men, put your happiness first. She may even have a problem with the thing that makes you happy. Dont waiver from it because when you do something you like you'll come home a different person. We spread the happy around! She'll even mention how "different" you are afterwards or even better she'll ask when you are doing that thing again whenever you feel angst.
Whatever makes you happy does NOT get in the way of the relationship
I honestly don't know bro, I was married for 5 years and I tried to make her happy but evidently I failed there.
Has there ever been a time when your wife was happy and all was right with the world?
Answer: NO! What most likely happened is you did some shit you didnt want to do to make her happy ASSUMING that her happiness will lead to your happiness. It wont. The most you can hope for is that the nagging will cease long enough to get some peace but that is false peace. Thats peace that you know cannot be maintained unless you consistently do things you dont want to do which is not making you happy in the first place.
A woman can be happy and it will have nothing to do with you at all. As a guy tho, when we are happy we share in it. When we are happy we WANT our woman to be happy because as a provider it makes you feel good to do so. Ya dig.
What a woman will do is try to convince you that if you do a specific set of things...a specific secret type of way...then that will unlock her happiness. If you've seen any cop show you know what happens when you give in to the Hostage taker. He takes the thing he claimed he really wanted and will ask for more things as long as you play the sucker.
Do not fall for this. Men, put your happiness first. She may even have a problem with the thing that makes you happy. Dont waiver from it because when you do something you like you'll come home a different person. We spread the happy around! She'll even mention how "different" you are afterwards or even better she'll ask when you are doing that thing again whenever you feel angst.
Whatever makes you happy does NOT get in the way of the relationship
I honestly don't know bro, I was married for 5 years and I tried to make her happy but evidently I failed there.
Seeing a loved one happy is enough. It's not necessarily a game of returns. But there are things in action that can be seen as making me happy from my personal experience. I'm not going to dive into that or anything. At the same time the environment is better without any actions. I grew up in a home where someone was always pissed off with someone else to the point the tension could be cut with a knife. I have a keen sense for that kind of tension in the air, and i do not like it. it's like walking on eggshells. Happy wife, happy life, bro.
Like I said bro its stops tension in the air but is no tension really happiness? That was what I said in the OP. I feel you...believe me but that is in essence saying that it keeps the peace.
You can view it that way, sure. In some ways you would be right. in certain situations it's totally true. It's about picking battles though too. I have some pretty strict principles when it comes to what I'm willing to put up with from anyone. I will totally stand my ground when i feel it is absolutely essential to my happiness in a relationship. If I feel I'm being pushed to fay, i will push back on certain things. But, as I age, i've learned to choose those battles very carefully. At the same time, i've been with the same one for oveer 3years now and we, and I mean it, do not fight. About anything. Ever. There are disputes, sure. But they are usually resolved in adult fashions with communication and then the compromise to meet both needs. I may just be lucky on it, and that could also sway my opinion on battle choosing.
Has there ever been a time when your wife was happy and all was right with the world?
Answer: NO! What most likely happened is you did some shit you didnt want to do to make her happy ASSUMING that her happiness will lead to your happiness. It wont. The most you can hope for is that the nagging will cease long enough to get some peace but that is false peace. Thats peace that you know cannot be maintained unless you consistently do things you dont want to do which is not making you happy in the first place.
A woman can be happy and it will have nothing to do with you at all. As a guy tho, when we are happy we share in it. When we are happy we WANT our woman to be happy because as a provider it makes you feel good to do so. Ya dig.
What a woman will do is try to convince you that if you do a specific set of things...a specific secret type of way...then that will unlock her happiness. If you've seen any cop show you know what happens when you give in to the Hostage taker. He takes the thing he claimed he really wanted and will ask for more things as long as you play the sucker.
Do not fall for this. Men, put your happiness first. She may even have a problem with the thing that makes you happy. Dont waiver from it because when you do something you like you'll come home a different person. We spread the happy around! She'll even mention how "different" you are afterwards or even better she'll ask when you are doing that thing again whenever you feel angst.
Whatever makes you happy does NOT get in the way of the relationship
I honestly don't know bro, I was married for 5 years and I tried to make her happy but evidently I failed there.
There's a HUGE difference in doing something for her without it having to be asked for or even hinted at as opposed to doing it because she has resorted to asking or hinting.
Little things mean alot.
Not just guys I think anyone on the receiving end of a break up pretends that they were blindsided. But really it's just they had the information in front of them they just chose to ignore it.
Has there ever been a time when your wife was happy and all was right with the world?
Answer: NO! What most likely happened is you did some shit you didnt want to do to make her happy ASSUMING that her happiness will lead to your happiness. It wont. The most you can hope for is that the nagging will cease long enough to get some peace but that is false peace. Thats peace that you know cannot be maintained unless you consistently do things you dont want to do which is not making you happy in the first place.
A woman can be happy and it will have nothing to do with you at all. As a guy tho, when we are happy we share in it. When we are happy we WANT our woman to be happy because as a provider it makes you feel good to do so. Ya dig.
What a woman will do is try to convince you that if you do a specific set of things...a specific secret type of way...then that will unlock her happiness. If you've seen any cop show you know what happens when you give in to the Hostage taker. He takes the thing he claimed he really wanted and will ask for more things as long as you play the sucker.
Do not fall for this. Men, put your happiness first. She may even have a problem with the thing that makes you happy. Dont waiver from it because when you do something you like you'll come home a different person. We spread the happy around! She'll even mention how "different" you are afterwards or even better she'll ask when you are doing that thing again whenever you feel angst.
Whatever makes you happy does NOT get in the way of the relationship
I honestly don't know bro, I was married for 5 years and I tried to make her happy but evidently I failed there.
Kudos! Humor ROCKS!!! 
That's a fishwife! Awful in my opinion. I need to respect a man, one who is his own man. Not a brute, but I have never had any desire to dominate or to be dominated. A man who would let me push him around wound be a complete turn off.
I don't nag my husband. There are many things I would like to nag him about, there are many things I'm less than pleased about, but I restrain myself. It does no good and I wouldn't want someone nagging me all the time.
I will tell him once about something and that's it. If it's a really serious matter, like he's driving us into a financial dark pit, I might bring it up again...occasionally. But usually I just figure out a solution on my own and leave him to his computers and books. He quit his job, went on unemployment for several months and then got a job making half of what he used to make. Almost destroyed us. Now he goes to work and that's it. He does not help out around the house at all. I do EVERYTHING. He doesn't even change light bulbs or take out trash.
This is a conscious decision of mine. It is easier for me to just take care of everything than to be constantly bickering and nagging at him. That's not who I want to be.
He's really kind of worthless any more. He didn't want to get his lazy butt out of bed and come with me when I had to take my beloved dog to the emergency vet. And he had the next day off, there was no reason he couldn't come along. And I had to have her put to sleep all by myself and drive home afterwards by myself.
But that's what the vows mean when they say "for better or for worse." I made a commitment and I'm in it to stay.
I kind of like being so self-sufficient, but damn, sometimes I'd like a shoulder to lean on.
Too much information?
So everyone is in agreement that the term "happy wife, happy life" is bullshit then?
Oh, HELL no!
When AVG-WIFE is happy I'm happy.
It's a system that works... WYGD?
Cool. Since you're one of the few that responded here let me ask you.
When the wife is happy what happens that in return makes you happy? Is there anything she does or does it make the environment better without actions?
