DustyInfinity
Platinum Member
When I was younger, I had issues with locus of control, and the feeling that life was imposed on people, not lived freely. Then someone much smarter than me said it didn't matter if we had control. It doesn't matter that we can't control the rain, we can still enjoy hearing the sound it makes when it hits the roof. Controlling an experience is irrelevant to enjoying an experience in many cases. That opened my eyes quite a bit.
The second advice I got was in the same vein. I fought the simple things, and tried to rush through everyday life to get to the things I truly desired. That is a horrible way to live. A wise person told me life IS the little things, and they should be experienced and cherished. Don't grumble about doing the dishes, accept life and appreciate it.
The third piece of advice I got was from my brother. He is the most pragmatic person on the planet and he shared a very useful philosophy. Don't worry about the things you can control, just deal with them. Don't lose your mind over a flat tire, just change it. He looks at setbacks like this the same as getting dressed in the morning. He also said you shouldn't worry about the things you can't change. So basically, he is pretty chilled out at all times, lol.
The second advice I got was in the same vein. I fought the simple things, and tried to rush through everyday life to get to the things I truly desired. That is a horrible way to live. A wise person told me life IS the little things, and they should be experienced and cherished. Don't grumble about doing the dishes, accept life and appreciate it.
The third piece of advice I got was from my brother. He is the most pragmatic person on the planet and he shared a very useful philosophy. Don't worry about the things you can control, just deal with them. Don't lose your mind over a flat tire, just change it. He looks at setbacks like this the same as getting dressed in the morning. He also said you shouldn't worry about the things you can't change. So basically, he is pretty chilled out at all times, lol.