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It is violent - it is taking what is not given freely by penetration and force.A girl I know once told me a story about when she was nearly date raped.
Here is the summarized version:
She was at a party at Oregon State University and there were a lot of football players in attendence. She hit if off with one of the larger players (she said he was probably 6'6'', 280 lbs). Now bear in mind that she is 5'3" 100 lbs soaking wet. They were drinking, talking and having an all around good time enjoying each other's company and getting hammered. As it got late, they decided to go for a walk around campus. They found a quiet, secluded spot on the grass and started making out. One thing led to another and he started taking her clothes off against her attempts to stop him physically and, according to her, repeatedly asking him to stop. She said he apparently just didn't get the message and she eventually resigned herself to the fact that she was indeed about to get raped. So at that point she just mentally detached herself from the moment and sort of just laid there waiting for it to be over. It was at this point that the guy realized she wasn't into it and stopped and asked her if she was ok with this. She said no and so then he stopped and couldn't stop apologizing.
It doesn't take a wild imagination to envision how this might've ended differently. But the bottom line is that if he did in fact rape her, it would've had absolutely ZERO to do with violence.
Do you view everything through a simplistic black & white lens, or just rape?