Spent a lot of time in the West Bank last year.You may well raise interesting points but they are pin pricks in comparison to the basic reasons for hate of each other , plus the ruling situation where an insane Israeli position is based on Ethnic Cleansing .
A very few more steps of escalation and Israel might find its very existence being threatened .
Keep your eyes on the Hezzers and action in north Israel as well as in Lebanon.
That, plus Hooty Tooty shipping action, is how other countries are most likely to start getting involved
imho
What you brush off is the crux of the matter.
Arabs can and do get elected in the Israeli elections and serve in the IDF.
One Jew walking into Gaza is cause for death.