sear
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My divorce was finalized in 1981.
I've dated occasionally since then.
And in some cyber-cases, I've suggested to her:
Lookit:
- No pressure.
- Some day, if you get off work at 5
M, and you just don't feel like going home to the same old dreary apartment where you have to cook the food, eat the food, and then wash up / clean up afterward;
instead of that; have dinner with me.
I'm surprised by how frequently this offer is declined.
But my understanding of why was recently advanced by an irate exclamation:
In our culture, women are expected to be:
- Smart; but not smarter than him.
- Smarter than him, but not to let him know it.
- Gorgeous.
- Efficient.
- etc.
- etc.
- etc.
So is it possible "she" has turned me down, not because she wouldn't like to just go to a restaurant instead of having to cook for herself;
but because:
- slicing the carrots into the salad for herself is less trouble than:
- doing the manicure
- getting her hair done
- shaving her legs
- being freshly showered, and fragrant
- etc (I don't know all the details; I'm just guessing wildly)?
* OR *
Am I just a repulsive troll and no woman wants to be seen in public with me?
I've dated occasionally since then.
And in some cyber-cases, I've suggested to her:
Lookit:
- No pressure.
- Some day, if you get off work at 5
instead of that; have dinner with me.
I'm surprised by how frequently this offer is declined.
But my understanding of why was recently advanced by an irate exclamation:
Our culture holds women to impossibly high standards."I shaved my legs for THIS?!
In our culture, women are expected to be:
- Smart; but not smarter than him.
- Smarter than him, but not to let him know it.
- Gorgeous.
- Efficient.
- etc.
- etc.
- etc.
So is it possible "she" has turned me down, not because she wouldn't like to just go to a restaurant instead of having to cook for herself;
but because:
- slicing the carrots into the salad for herself is less trouble than:
- doing the manicure
- getting her hair done
- shaving her legs
- being freshly showered, and fragrant
- etc (I don't know all the details; I'm just guessing wildly)?
* OR *
Am I just a repulsive troll and no woman wants to be seen in public with me?