TheProgressivePatriot
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This is a heartfelt story that illustrates the fact that, while we have come a long way, we have miles yet to go to achieve true equality and inclusiveness for gay parents
This woman should never have been judged in this way . Science fiction? Really? Is it science fiction when a heterosexual couple uses a donor ?
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But there is a happy ending
Gay mom reflects on being the non-birthing parent & tells folks to check their assumptions
"Family" no longer exclusively means a man, a woman, and their genetically-related children. Why is it taking so long for society to catch up?
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Lotte Jeffs wrote in Women’s Health that it first occurred to her that some folks might take issue with how she was starting her family when a colleague “referred to the act of choosing a sperm donor as akin to the plot of a science fiction novel.”
This woman should never have been judged in this way . Science fiction? Really? Is it science fiction when a heterosexual couple uses a donor ?
“This work associate had taken umbrage with news that a sperm bank had released an app allowing women to search easily for a donor,” Jeffs wrote. “‘Tinder for baby daddies,’ she scoffed. ‘Whatever next!’ I was silent, trying to temper the anger and sadness building in my body, but I could already feel the hot prickle of tears in my eyes. My wife and I had been using this very app to find our own sperm donor, so we could have a baby together.”
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She also decried the fact that there are multiple words for “dad” but no words for the experience of being the non-birthing parent in an LGBTQ+ couple.
“While technology and legislation have given birth to a world in which there are more ways than ever to become a parent,” she said, “the narrative that parenthood is exclusively the product of unprotected heterosexual sex persists.”
But there is a happy ending
Before her wife gave birth, Jeffs worried that not being biologically related to her daughter would affect their relationship, but it didn’t at all.
“From the first moment I held her in my arms our biological closeness was completely negated by our actual everyday closeness,” she wrote in a 2022 Instagram post. “Over the last three years, we’ve grown into and around each other as our roots become entangled.”