The_Lyrical_Miracle
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While I don't think your focus on her is necessarily "healthy" mentally on paper.. I'm not going to tell you how to live your life. My only hope would be that you can somehow transfer that drive from "getting back" at someone to just doing it for yourself. But, you're 62, you're set in your ways. If it fuels you and it's something you can cling to, don't listen to any keyboard psychologist like me.When the opposite sex rejects you, it definitely can spur you into action. When I was 16, I was a nerd. I really liked this girl who was sort of nerdy too, and was valedictorian of our class. We were friendly for awhile, went to the prom together. I assumed she would want someone kind of like her, a college-bound intellectual. Later I saw her with an older guy who had played football and wrestled and was only a high school graduate and a middling student at that. She ended up marrying him. That shook me to my foundations. From that point onward, I started lifting weights and completely changed. I was known for being a muscle man. I was doing it to 'get back at her' in my mind, to make her sorry for dumping me, and to make sure I never got rejected again for being a nerd. Today at 62, I'm still lifting, still trying to get back at her, even though I haven't seen her for 40 years and likely will never see her again. I use it for motivation. Because I know that if I ever do see her, I will definitely look fitter than her husband. It's childish, but I don't care.
Thank you for sharing. One might think that because I start this thread that I'm probably some ripped up dude who can't understand the issues of people who are overweight, I'm not. I have a history of power lifting, and have struggled most of my life with being thick, rotund, pudgy etc. I can bulk up excellently, but I can't cut at all. However, I can admit that I'm safely in the "overweight" category currently. I know my eating habits have been bad, whether due to stress, life scenarios that have happened, or just bad long term habits. I have my excuses, and it's my life, but... I'm not going to tell anyone that there's nothing wrong with me or my body, there is... and I'm starting to work on fixing it.