Steinlight
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Support for gay marriage is a product of the erosion of the idea of conjugal marriage, and pushes it further in that direction. I disagree with the direction marriage and relationships in general are heading. I don't think separating marriage from sex and marriage from procreation is a good thing. This has resulted in marriage and relations becoming more about convenience and personal gratification rather than about family formation. Certainly hasn't brought us good results with higher divorce rates, lower marriage rates, lower birth rates, but higher out of wedlock birth rates. These are all net negatives.Heterosexuals and homosexuals are intertwined, we share a society after all, that is far more interconnected than ever before through social and mass media. It is the hyperliberalization of heterosexual sexual behavior that led to a social climate. The idea there isn't a connection or heterosexuals and homosexuals are isolated and don't share a culture that includes sexual norms is incorrect. It is changing heterosexual norms, and decline in traditional values, that led to toleration of homosexuality among a significant section of the population(not flyover country though where all those hicks live) . Same sex marriage further erodes the idea of conjugal marriage, detaching marriage and sex from procreation in the larger culture. It isn't that homosexuality has wrought a social decline, but toleration and social and political normalization of this anti-social behavior is a manifestation of the decline.Do you have data to support your claim that the rise in single motherhood has directly correlated with the rise of the welfare state, and federal assistance for single moms?The rise in single motherhood has directly correlated with the rise of the welfare state, and federal assistance for single moms. Women have children out of wedlock because they know they will have a bailout. That isn't to say that all single motherhood will be eliminated. But it will be reduced significantly. At the end of the day, humans are economic actors, and act to maximize their resources. If women know they wont have government resources, and have to pay it all on their own, they are more likely to not get into situations that lead to children out of wedlock.
It may sound mean, but in reality, we shouldn't be expected to pick up the tab for other people's bad decisions, particularly at the federal level. In the long run everyone will be better off when this economic incentive for dysfunctional behavior is removed. It is better off for the moms, children, and the society as a whole.
In a forthcoming study for the journal Demography, Robert Moffitt, an economist at Johns Hopkins University, details how the poorest single-parent families—80 percent of which are headed by single mothers—receive 35 percent less in government transfers than they did three decades ago. Also, the birth rate to unmarried women has been flat since 2006 and declined in 2014
How Welfare Reform Left Single Moms Behind - The Atlantic
Share of births to unmarried women dips reversing a long trend Pew Research Center
Relationship Between the Welfare State and Crime Cato InstituteAt the same time, the evidence of a link between the availability of welfare and out-of-wedlock births is overwhelming. There have been 13 major studies of the relationship between the availability of welfare benefits and out-of-wedlock birth. Of these, 11 found a statistically significant correlation. Among the best of these studies is the work done by June O’Neill for the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Holding constant a wide range of variables, including income, education, and urban vs. suburban setting, the study found that a 50 percent increase in the value of AFDC and foodstamp payments led to a 43 percent increase in the number of out-of-wedlock births.(7) Likewise, research by Shelley Lundberg and Robert Plotnick of the University of Washington showed that an increase in welfare benefits of $200 per month per family increased the rate of out-of-wedlock births among teenagers by 150 percent.(8)
But in addition to this data, it is just common sense. If you subsidize something, you get more of it. Humans are resource maximizing beings that respond to economic signals. If women knew there wasn't a safety net where their poor decision wasn't subsidized, they would be less likely to make that poor decision. Obviously, such a program will have to phased out overtime, and you can't just cut aid to already born children. At the most, it should be a state issue, but even at my state level, I wouldn't support it because it just creates more of the problem it tries to solve.
It appears that this thread has been run off the rails. How did we get from SCOTUS and same sex marriage to welfare and crime? Let me take a stab at it. The same declining social and sexual morals that allowed gay marriage has resulted in more single parent families and thus more welfare, poverty and crime. Is that it?
If so, it still has NOTHING to do with same sex marriage. Same sex marriage has NO effect on the behavior or values of heterosexual people who will do what they do regardless.
However, same sex marriage WILL have an effect on gay and lesbian families and the well being of their children. Those children will enjoy greater financial security and family stability and be less likely to wind up on welfare. Then there are all of those children who are wards of the state who might be adopted by gay and lesbian couples. We might just come out ahead.
But while we are on the subject of social safety nets, I will finish by saying that it is not those programs that cause the poverty, it is capitalism. With capitalism there are always winners and losers and poverty and unemployment are built in side effects.
I think the idea homosexual relations are "stable" has no basis in reality. You have an incredibly sanitized view of homosexuality that is given to you by mass media. But it isn't really the case. 55% of gay couples are either in an open relationship(47%) or "not sure"(8%).
Many gay couples negotiate open relationships - SFGate
Capitalism(the private ownership of the means of production), does not cause women to have sex out of wedlock.
Where on earth are you coming from with this. ?? You start out by making some degree of sense but then spiral down by saying:
“Same sex marriage further erodes the idea of conjugal marriage, detaching marriage and sex from procreation in the larger culture
What the hell does that mean and how is it true? Gay marriage does not erode anything. Marriage has been detached from procreation for a long time. Furthermore, gay people do have children, with help but they do have children. They procreate. But more than it being about procreation, marriage is about raising children and gay people do raise children who are better off if the parents are married.
.Then you say…..”It isn't that homosexuality has wrought a social decline, but toleration and social and political normalization of this anti-social behavior is a manifestation of the decline
What social decline? Tolerating discrimination is social decline, not tolerating variations on human sexuality that have no effect on others or society in general. A just and fair society is an advanced society. You might want to consider joining it.
You get further into the stupid zone by questioning the stability of gay relationships. Stability in relation to who? Some relationships are stable, some are not. What evidence do you have that same sex relationships are less stale than heterosexual relationships? In the last year, we had two heterosexual couple neighbors-on either side of us split up. If gays are any less stable, maybe it is because of being forced to live in the shadows, of having been marginalized for so long, of not having their relationships validated. MAYBE with marriage and general equality they will be just as stable as anyone else.
And open relationships not equate with unstable relationships. I am straight, we are not monogamous and we have been married for 30 fucking years . Do you not know anything about life
Gays don't have children. It is impossible for two of the same sex to have a child. When they "have a kid", they take the sperm or eggs of another person, which opens into another ethical dilemma of the commodification of life. But I am pretty sure it is bigoted to have that.
A marriage license won't reverse these open relationship rates of about 55% among gay couples. Kids are not better off in such a environment absent faithful parents in a stable relationship. The idea that same sex couples are the same in their behavior as heterosexual couples is just incorrect. Doesn't match up to the reality of the situation.
Discrimination is not a bad thing. People discriminate in relationships and in their daily lives all the time. We discriminate everyday in who we chose to associate and disassociate with based on their values and characteristics. You I don't think the degenerate homosexual lifestyle should be normalized in the legal and cultural arena. They simply are not like heterosexuals in their behavior, and I don't think the culture should promote their degeneracy by equalizing them under the law.
I don't think normalizing a lifestyle that produces a 20% HIV rate, a 55% open relationship rate, a 20% meth use rate, and high promiscuity(studies show a range of between 100-500) is advanced at all. It is nihilistic and morally debased.
The Meth-Gay Sex Nightmare L.A. Weekly
Gay marriage and the triumph of 60s
Congratulations on being a cuck. You represent the baby boomers perfectly.