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If you are worried, why let her drive at all? Thats very irresponsible of you.
When that child has been granted DPOA over financial and health decisions on their parent's behalf as witnessed by a notary and that parent loses their ability to drive safely from that child's perspective. Nothing nefarious about it. Those who can still drive safely in their 80s and 90s? Great!Let me know when it's acceptable for a child to make decisions for a parent. I'm a 68 y/o child. My mid-80s parents decided to stop driving on their own.
Take the cap and rotor...my BIL had to do that to my dad's car.My mother is 94 yeas old. Still lives alone, teaches a sunday school class, and is almost as active and alert as any 60 year old. The only problem is her driving is getting scary. Taking her keys would break her heart, and I don't want what little time she has left to be spent feeling betrayed and angry at her kids. I'm thinking about telling her that something extremely expensive is wrong with her car, but it should be fine as long as she only drives it the short distance from home to church, or from home to the local store. Anything more than the 1/2 mile radious around her house will ruin her car. No more interstate driving to the larger town across the river. Anybody here who has had to deal with taking an old person's keys? How did you do it?
Take the cap and rotor...my BIL had to do that to my dad's car.
My Mother In Law totaled the car because my wife let her keep her keys, even after driving the wrong way on the interstate.My mother is 94 yeas old. Still lives alone, teaches a sunday school class, and is almost as active and alert as any 60 year old. The only problem is her driving is getting scary. Taking her keys would break her heart, and I don't want what little time she has left to be spent feeling betrayed and angry at her kids. I'm thinking about telling her that something extremely expensive is wrong with her car, but it should be fine as long as she only drives it the short distance from home to church, or from home to the local store. Anything more than the 1/2 mile radious around her house will ruin her car. No more interstate driving to the larger town across the river. Anybody here who has had to deal with taking an old person's keys? How did you do it?
Ok. What if they didn't decide to stop driving, but watching them go down the road is scary as hell?Let me know when it's acceptable for a child to make decisions for a parent. I'm a 68 y/o child. My mid-80s parents decided to stop driving on their own. It's not the offspring's place to dictate.
Might end up doing that. I don't want her to spend what time she has left feeling angry and insulted because her kids didn't show her the respect she deserves. That's really not what it is, but it's what she would think.Take the cap and rotor...my BIL had to do that to my dad's car.
My mother is 94 yeas old. Still lives alone, teaches a sunday school class, and is almost as active and alert as any 60 year old. The only problem is her driving is getting scary. Taking her keys would break her heart, and I don't want what little time she has left to be spent feeling betrayed and angry at her kids. I'm thinking about telling her that something extremely expensive is wrong with her car, but it should be fine as long as she only drives it the short distance from home to church, or from home to the local store. Anything more than the 1/2 mile radious around her house will ruin her car. No more interstate driving to the larger town across the river. Anybody here who has had to deal with taking an old person's keys? How did you do it?
I don't know what the 'D' stands for. I've been granted POA for my parents. I still ask them what they want to do, I don't tell them to do anything. It's still not my place.When that child has been granted DPOA over financial and health decisions on their parent's behalf as witnessed by a notary and that parent loses their ability to drive safely from that child's perspective. Nothing nefarious about it. Those who can still drive safely in their 80s and 90s? Great!
Don't watch.Ok. What if they didn't decide to stop driving, but watching them go down the road is scary as hell?
Yes, it is your duty as mature adult and loving family member to detect, inspect, select, and correct. It's not the age or parent/child relationship that decides this: it is whether they are incompetent to the point they can hurt themselves and others.Don't watch.
That would apply if a parent is a serious dementia case. Bad hearing, eyesight, and slow reactions aren't enough, or I'd give up my keys.Yes, it is your duty as mature adult and loving family member to detect, inspect, select, and correct. It's not the age or parent/child relationship that decides this: it is whether they are incompetent to the point they can hurt themselves and others.
We are talking about parents, and all of those things combined are reasons to take away the keys.That would apply if a parent is a serious dementia case. Bad hearing, eyesight, and slow reactions aren't enough, or I'd give up my keys.
Durable. I shouldn't have assumed it's the same everywhere, but here in PA:I don't know what the 'D' stands for. I've been granted POA for my parents. I still ask them what they want to do, I don't tell them to do anything. It's still not my place.
My parents drove me down to see their fancy estate planning lawyer in Philly one day. IIRC it was July something, 1994. The lawyer pulled out one multi-page document after another and said sign here, here, and here. I'm sure he explained what I signing a bit, but my parents didn't seem interested in discussing it further at all. I mainly gathered that I was going to be the primary executor of their Will, my sister the secondary. But, boy howdy, did I need to figure out what each and every word of those documents meant later on.. Family members can be brutally stupid when they sense there's money or power at stake.A power of attorney (or POA) is a legal document that gives one person (the "agent") the authority to act for another person (the "principal").
Traditionally, a POA ended if the principal became incapacitated. A POA that continues after incapacity is called a "durable" POA. Traditionally, a POA also became effective immediately upon being signed. A POA that only becomes effective if the principal becomes incapacitated is called a "springing" POA (which by its nature is also durable).A POA is useful if you can't be present to take care of a financial matter or want someone to take care of your finances or medical treatment in the event you become incapacitated—what Pennsylvania law refers to as disabled or incapacitated.
Under Pennsylvania law, a POA is durable unless it specifically states otherwise. It may also be a springing POA if so provided.
I can't, in all honesty, disagree with you and BULLDOG. I wouldn't tell the lie about the car being only mechanically sound enough to stay in a small radius though. Mom will know that you're lying. It's what they do.We are talking about parents, and all of those things combined are reasons to take away the keys.