Would you Pay to Attend a Wedding?

[DGS49]

Would You Pay to Attend a Wedding?

As wedding costs continue to increase, some couples are charging guests to attend their special day.

www.nytimes.com

I believe I wrote a bit in this Forum on my recent wedding visit to [un-named mile-high city] for the wedding of my niece. I commented that if the wedding were held in my "back yard" so to speak, I would have given her a check for $250 or so with my congratulatory card. The weekend cost me well north of a thousand bucks, but my spousal unit told me it would vulgar to give her an invoice for the difference, so we ate the cost and just wrote it off as a bad debt. In addition to the $250 - or more - that the spousal unit inserted into the card. Parenthetically, it was a rather low-budget wedding, comparable to the traditional reception at a local fire hall. If they spent more than $50 a head, the organizer should have been wearing a bandit mask.

The subject of the linked article asked (demanded?) $450 for a "ticket" to attend his wedding in Houston. OK, will he be satisfied when he gets no gifts? Would it be appropriate to give a greeting card with no gift?

Is this bad form, or just a reasonable response to the stratospheric costs of having a "nice" wedding these days?

 

[hjmick]

Nope.


Though I would pay to travel to one.

But the wedding itself... Nope.

 

[shockedcanadian]

Would You Pay to Attend a Wedding?

As wedding costs continue to increase, some couples are charging guests to attend their special day.

www.nytimes.com

I believe I wrote a bit in this Forum on my recent wedding visit to [un-named mile-high city] for the wedding of my niece. I commented that if the wedding were held in my "back yard" so to speak, I would have given her a check for $250 or so with my congratulatory card. The weekend cost me well north of a thousand bucks, but my spousal unit told me it would vulgar to give her an invoice for the difference, so we ate the cost and just wrote it off as a bad debt. In addition to the $250 - or more - that the spousal unit inserted into the card. Parenthetically, it was a rather low-budget wedding, comparable to the traditional reception at a local fire hall. If they spent more than $50 a head, the organizer should have been wearing a bandit mask.

The subject of the linked article asked (demanded?) $450 for a "ticket" to attend his wedding in Houston. OK, will he be satisfied when he gets no gifts? Would it be appropriate to give a greeting card with no gift?

Is this bad form, or just a reasonable response to the stratospheric costs of having a "nice" wedding these days?

No, they pay me to attend!m

 

[SweetSue92]

Would You Pay to Attend a Wedding?

As wedding costs continue to increase, some couples are charging guests to attend their special day.

www.nytimes.com

I believe I wrote a bit in this Forum on my recent wedding visit to [un-named mile-high city] for the wedding of my niece. I commented that if the wedding were held in my "back yard" so to speak, I would have given her a check for $250 or so with my congratulatory card. The weekend cost me well north of a thousand bucks, but my spousal unit told me it would vulgar to give her an invoice for the difference, so we ate the cost and just wrote it off as a bad debt. In addition to the $250 - or more - that the spousal unit inserted into the card. Parenthetically, it was a rather low-budget wedding, comparable to the traditional reception at a local fire hall. If they spent more than $50 a head, the organizer should have been wearing a bandit mask.

The subject of the linked article asked (demanded?) $450 for a "ticket" to attend his wedding in Houston. OK, will he be satisfied when he gets no gifts? Would it be appropriate to give a greeting card with no gift?

Is this bad form, or just a reasonable response to the stratospheric costs of having a "nice" wedding these days?

You know you're not obligated to attend out of town weddings, right? Could have just sent your regrets and the check and saved a lot of money. YOU made the choice.

 

[Mister Iggy]

Destination weddings pay for the immediate family to attend, flights and accomodation, anyone else isn’t expected to come if they dont want to spend the bucks.. Thems the rules..