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Let it all out Syrenn. You've got some righteous anger.I refuse to be a doormat for anyone. As I reached adulthood, I had to learn to set boundaries with my family in a variety of different ways. I love you, but that doesn't mean you get to call the shots in my life. I don't play games, I don't bullshit, and I will not be controlled.
It took them a while, but they finally caught on.Life is so much better when there are good solid boundaries in place. I am convinced most human interaction is learning to successfully negotiate boundaries, and balancing getting your needs met versus the needs of others. If you get those things right 90-95% of the time, you will generally be happy and successful. At least, imho.
It sounds like you've had to set some firm boundaries. They will fight you at first. Too fucking bad. It is for your sanity and peace of mind. Fences help make good neighbors.
Sorry for your situation, rat. Some families can be toxic. It is hard sometimes to know what can be salvaged and what cannot.
It can happen where one family member really grows and progresses in life, while the rest stay stuck in the same dysfunction. That's when things get toxic. I was lucky, in my family we all kinda of grew separately, but at lest most of us were going in the same direction. We all got healthier as we got older. Maybe the light bulb can go off for your family members.
Sorry for your situation, rat. Some families can be toxic. It is hard sometimes to know what can be salvaged and what cannot.
It can happen where one family member really grows and progresses in life, while the rest stay stuck in the same dysfunction. That's when things get toxic. I was lucky, in my family we all kinda of grew separately, but at lest most of us were going in the same direction. We all got healthier as we got older. Maybe the light bulb can go off for your family members.
at some point.... you get tired of trying to salvage something.....
the SIL in NYC.... the relationship between her and Mr S has never been very good... to much childhood history....
but, when she had her son i wanted to TRY and fix the situation and so did Mr S..... here is one story....
we made ourselves available on OUR vacation to NYC.... to spend time with her, her husband and son. I was going to make french toast for breakfast... at the request of the son. I shipped everything i would need to make this breakfast knowing she was not much of a cook..and did not have much equipment... she did not like to cook. Pans, bowels, whisk, spatulas, spoons, ingredients.... you name it, it was a mobile kitchen to go....
so on the way up to the apartment, in the lobby.... all of the sunday papers are fanned out on the paper bench...... we pick up hers and head up the elevator.... knock on the door, she answers and says, "oh did you see him on the way down why didn't you give him the paper?"
or really... we went down?
yep... he heard us coming up the elevator....and booked down the stairs .... we knew it and so did she. Rude fucking bastard that he is....She said... "he went out to get coffee"....
so we wait.... im ready to make breakfast.... and we wait... and wait and wait.... 2 hours later he comes back. No coffee.... i look at mr S... he looks at me.... he says he will be right back, goes to starbucks and brings back coffee..... for everyone....
that year we gave her a coffee maker for Christmas.
Sorry for your situation, rat. Some families can be toxic. It is hard sometimes to know what can be salvaged and what cannot.
It can happen where one family member really grows and progresses in life, while the rest stay stuck in the same dysfunction. That's when things get toxic. I was lucky, in my family we all kinda of grew separately, but at lest most of us were going in the same direction. We all got healthier as we got older. Maybe the light bulb can go off for your family members.
at some point.... you get tired of trying to salvage something.....
the SIL in NYC.... the relationship between her and Mr S has never been very good... to much childhood history....
but, when she had her son i wanted to TRY and fix the situation and so did Mr S..... here is one story....
we made ourselves available on OUR vacation to NYC.... to spend time with her, her husband and son. I was going to make french toast for breakfast... at the request of the son. I shipped everything i would need to make this breakfast knowing she was not much of a cook..and did not have much equipment... she did not like to cook. Pans, bowels, whisk, spatulas, spoons, ingredients.... you name it, it was a mobile kitchen to go....
so on the way up to the apartment, in the lobby.... all of the sunday papers are fanned out on the paper bench...... we pick up hers and head up the elevator.... knock on the door, she answers and says, "oh did you see him on the way down why didn't you give him the paper?"
or really... we went down?
yep... he heard us coming up the elevator....and booked down the stairs .... we knew it and so did she. Rude fucking bastard that he is....She said... "he went out to get coffee"....
so we wait.... im ready to make breakfast.... and we wait... and wait and wait.... 2 hours later he comes back. No coffee.... i look at mr S... he looks at me.... he says he will be right back, goes to starbucks and brings back coffee..... for everyone....
that year we gave her a coffee maker for Christmas.
Welcome to the club
Welcome to the club
I don't think there is such a thing as the perfect family.....mainly becasue people are not perfect. We are not living in pleasantville.
I talked to people who's family i would love to have grown up with....and yet, many still say they hate how they were raised.
I don't hate my family but sometimes I feel like I am being ignored by my parents because my sister is getting married and she can do no wrong at the moment. Laziness for her is acceptable, we need to walk on broken glass around her because she's stressed.
That shits me, but I don't hate anyone. I just hate the way they act.
Sorry about your family troubles, Syrenn. Can't be good having difficulties like that.
I don't hate my family but sometimes I feel like I am being ignored by my parents because my sister is getting married and she can do no wrong at the moment. Laziness for her is acceptable, we need to walk on broken glass around her because she's stressed.
That shits me, but I don't hate anyone. I just hate the way they act.
Sorry about your family troubles, Syrenn. Can't be good having difficulties like that.
ok....i dont get the whole bridezilla thing. I am sorry, no excuse is good enough for bad behavior.
we were havering a discussion in the tavern.....and this seemed like a good topic....considering my other thread....lol.
I don't think there is such a thing as the perfect family.....mainly becasue people are not perfect. We are not living in pleasantville.
I talked to people who's family i would love to have grown up with....and yet, many still say they hate how they were raised.