Mac1958
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One of my kids is a sophomore in high school and a great kid. She currently has a 4.5 grade point average (remember when 4 was the highest? Weird), she's a member of the National Honor Society, she's on the varsity softball team and the choir. She's also one heck of an amateur photographer. Words can't express how proud we are of her.
We were talking yesterday about how some "friends of a friend" were giving her crap at school about her achievements. Her circle of friends are much like her, but there are some others she knows who are more into video games and laying on the couch for extended periods of time. That's the group I'm talking about.
Anyway, what those friends were saying reminded me of much of what I see on this board.
While they're busy complaining about people like my kid, how she somehow doesn't deserve her success, she's going in to school early and/or staying late to get help from her teachers; she's diligently doing her homework six nights a week; she and I are going to the park in 30 degree weather to work on her fielding; she can be heard singing her choir parts in her room. Her mom & I hope that she's not overdoing it, but she's a happy kid and she still manages quite a bit of goof-off time.
She doesn't know much about video games and won't be seen on the couch for more than about five minutes, she gets bored. Whenever she talks about someone doing better than her, she takes it as a challenge rather than complaining or calling them names.
My advice to her yesterday: "You'll find that 20% of the people end up doing 80% of the work while the others are sitting around complaining. They're always an excuse for them, they always want to point the finger. Just keep doing what you're doing, stay focused, do what you love, and forget about them."
Her response, "Yeah, I know. They create their own drama and then look for someone else to blame for it."
Yep. Great kid.
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One of my kids is a sophomore in high school and a great kid. She currently has a 4.5 grade point average (remember when 4 was the highest? Weird), she's a member of the National Honor Society, she's on the varsity softball team and the choir. She's also one heck of an amateur photographer. Words can't express how proud we are of her.
We were talking yesterday about how some "friends of a friend" were giving her crap at school about her achievements. Her circle of friends are much like her, but there are some others she knows who are more into video games and laying on the couch for extended periods of time. That's the group I'm talking about.
Anyway, what those friends were saying reminded me of much of what I see on this board.
While they're busy complaining about people like my kid, how she somehow doesn't deserve her success, she's going in to school early and/or staying late to get help from her teachers; she's diligently doing her homework six nights a week; she and I are going to the park in 30 degree weather to work on her fielding; she can be heard singing her choir parts in her room. Her mom & I hope that she's not overdoing it, but she's a happy kid and she still manages quite a bit of goof-off time.
She doesn't know much about video games and won't be seen on the couch for more than about five minutes, she gets bored. Whenever she talks about someone doing better than her, she takes it as a challenge rather than complaining or calling them names.
My advice to her yesterday: "You'll find that 20% of the people end up doing 80% of the work while the others are sitting around complaining. They're always an excuse for them, they always want to point the finger. Just keep doing what you're doing, stay focused, do what you love, and forget about them."
Her response, "Yeah, I know. They create their own drama and then look for someone else to blame for it."
Yep. Great kid.
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