I am shaking. Just...shaking.

[Gracie]

Brother in law just attacked me again. But thank goodness he didn't get hold of me. Hubby was standing there and so was sisterinlaw. He tried very hard to get past them and the look on his face was.....crazy. And he is.
Since his last stroke...he has been losing more brain cells. He is usually quiet, but he blew up because his tv wasn't working. And if his tv isn't working, all hell breaks loose. This time, the sisterinlaw was yelling, he was yelling, neither one would listen to me or hubby trying to explain we have activate their new cable boxes before it will work and he turned to me and began yelling he was going to KILL YOUUUUUUUUUUU!

After hubby got him out of the room, I said "that's it. I refuse to live with a violent person. get out".
Hubby agreed. His brother is just too dangerous now. Time to go.

But my hands are still shaking.

 

[Mr. H.]

Dang.

 

[PixieStix]

Brother in law just attacked me again. But thank goodness he didn't get hold of me. Hubby was standing there and so was sisterinlaw. He tried very hard to get past them and the look on his face was.....crazy. And he is.
Since his last stroke...he has been losing more brain cells. He is usually quiet, but he blew up because his tv wasn't working. And if his tv isn't working, all hell breaks loose. This time, the sisterinlaw was yelling, he was yelling, neither one would listen to me or hubby trying to explain we have activate their new cable boxes before it will work and he turned to me and began yelling he was going to KILL YOUUUUUUUUUUU!

After hubby got him out of the room, I said "that's it. I refuse to live with a violent person. get out".
Hubby agreed. His brother is just too dangerous now. Time to go.

But my hands are still shaking.

I am glad you are ok Gracie. You guys made the right choice. I am sorry

 

[Katzndogz]

He needs to do more than just leave. He needs treatment. Call the police and explain the situation. At the very least he will be taken in on a medical hold and evaluated.

The life you save may not necessarily be your own.

 

[Howey]

That's horrible, Gracie! He needs help and y'all need to get rid of him NOW.

I'm praying for you.

 

[Howey]

He needs to do more than just leave. He needs treatment. Call the police and explain the situation. At the very least he will be taken in on a medical hold and evaluated.

The life you save may not necessarily be your own.

I wish having someone committed under the Baker Act was that easy. It's not.

 

[Gracie]

I don't want him committed. I want him away from me.
They are making arrangements now to move back to Arizona. The other roomie asked if she had to leave too and I said of course not. I will just rent their room out to someone else. Problem solved.

He attacked me once before. Left breast, and fisted me in the face. My breast...which is now gone due to cancer and I think the damage he did was part of that cancer....was black and blue. My face puffed up but I was ok. At least he didn't knock teeth out. This was prior to his last stroke.

But this time....his language was just fine. no stumblings, no struggling to get the words out. he flat out said "I am going to kill you. I will twist your other tit off and hope you die of cancer if I don't get kill you first".

He is back to childlike again right now. He told sisterinlaw he wouldn't have hurt me..he was just mad. She said "yes you would have hurt her. you hurt ME too. don't you remember choking me to get to her?" and he said "no".

He is her problem. Not mine. Hubby is happy I finally told them what he wanted to tell them...which is to go away. We tried to help them..and they were supposed to help us too. Since they have been here....it has been nothing but confusion, nothing done that she was supposed to do to help ME around the house, and in general...not very pleasant. Livable, but not pleasant. Adding violence on to it was the proverbial straw. No going back now. Out they go.

I also told her to tell him he is to stay 25 feet away from me at all times. And he no longer has access to my yard. He can go in the front yard, but the back yard is mine and I don't want anywhere near him.

 

[Jarlaxle]

Best solution is probably to shoot the fucker!

 

[Katzndogz]

He needs to do more than just leave. He needs treatment. Call the police and explain the situation. At the very least he will be taken in on a medical hold and evaluated.

The life you save may not necessarily be your own.

I wish having someone committed under the Baker Act was that easy. It's not.

A 72 hour hold is not having someone committed. Every state has a medical hold. In California it's under Health and Safety Code Se ti on 5150. It has nothing to do with the Baker Act.

 

[Vandalshandle]

Gracie, I am with the sheriff's auxiliary volunteers in a retirement community, so I deal with these guys from time to time.

You need to start right now, in documenting further threats of any kind. That means that the next time he does it, call 911. You may have to proceed to a restraining order before it is over. it probably would not protect you, but it would start a paper trail that could lead to some sort of physical restraint. You need to have a zero tolerance policy on threats. If necessary, after you get him out of the house, arm yourself and take a course in using it. Nothing works better than the sound of a cocking shotgun to get someone's attention. if he becomes a stalker, then, of course, you would need other protection that you could have at all times. I personally knew a lady who had a similar problem with a stalker. It did not end until he was on the business end of a Colt 1911 .45 in her living room, and that is where he died.

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this, but you must not give him gratis for what is causing his behavior. In the end, it makes no difference.

 

[Howey]

He needs to do more than just leave. He needs treatment. Call the police and explain the situation. At the very least he will be taken in on a medical hold and evaluated.

The life you save may not necessarily be your own.

I wish having someone committed under the Baker Act was that easy. It's not.

A 72 hour hold is not having someone committed. Every state has a medical hold. In California it's under Health and Safety Code Se ti on 5150. It has nothing to do with the Baker Act.

Here in Fl it's the Baker Act. And very hard to do.

 

[mudwhistle]

My Mom had a stroke when I was 9 and she really was mean to me till I joined the Navy to get away from her.

 

[Katzndogz]

My step dad had a stroke that left him deranged. He was violent but too weak to do any real damage. I tried to put him in a facility but none would take him for long. He not only had a stroke but it came along with dementia.

If your Bro in law goes off and hurts someone and you KNEW how violent he is you might have some culpability. I don't know where you are or what the law is. The man is a bomb waiting to go off.

 

[Katzndogz]

I wish having someone committed under the Baker Act was that easy. It's not.

A 72 hour hold is not having someone committed. Every state has a medical hold. In California it's under Health and Safety Code Se ti on 5150. It has nothing to do with the Baker Act.

Here in Fl it's the Baker Act. And very hard to do.

I looked up the Baker Act. It's the same thing. When someone is a danger to themselves or others they are subject to an involuntary 72 hour hold. Under the Baker Act a voluntary hold is harder to get than a 72 hour hold.

When someone is violent you can bet that a medical hold will be very easy. The violent mentally ill are not allowed to wander around anywhere.

 

[Geaux4it]

Brother in law just attacked me again. But thank goodness he didn't get hold of me. Hubby was standing there and so was sisterinlaw. He tried very hard to get past them and the look on his face was.....crazy. And he is.
Since his last stroke...he has been losing more brain cells. He is usually quiet, but he blew up because his tv wasn't working. And if his tv isn't working, all hell breaks loose. This time, the sisterinlaw was yelling, he was yelling, neither one would listen to me or hubby trying to explain we have activate their new cable boxes before it will work and he turned to me and began yelling he was going to KILL YOUUUUUUUUUUU!

After hubby got him out of the room, I said "that's it. I refuse to live with a violent person. get out".
Hubby agreed. His brother is just too dangerous now. Time to go.

But my hands are still shaking.

Get a gun and learn to use it. IF you haven't already

-Geaux

 

[williepete]

Glad you're safe Gracie.

Do what you have to do to stay safe.

 

[Gracie]

I have a gun. Problem is...so does he. I asked SIL where it was and she said hidden, and the bullets in a different location.

He will not try to harm me again. Her? He might harm her, but that's her problem, no longer mine. She has been warned quite a few times and chooses to ignore it. So now they are contacting every relative to find out where they can go. I hope they find some place fast but I won't hold my breath. None of them let them come live with them when they needed a place. Only me and hubby. So now they are more or less screwed. She is 59, going on 12 mentally. He is 72, going on 8. He is weak, so he did not get to me. Which is a good thing. He falls often too. So...no threat there. Unless she didn't hide the gun well enough.
They left just now. Went to a relatives house. Let them deal with it. I'm done.

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Wow Gracie. So sorry this is happening to you !!

You had no choice but to make the decision you made, this was 100% necessary.

Take care, God bless.

 

[TemplarKormac]

I hope you're going to be all right, Gracie. My dad had to do something similar with a family friend. He started disrespecting his wife and he finally sent him back to New York where he came from. Don't let nobody run you over.

 

[Vandalshandle]

Gracie. Have the locks changed. It is not expensive.