Not2BSubjugated
Callous Individualist
Nonsense.
First off your accusation regarding my quoted definition as having a "REQUIREMENT" for dis-regard is nonsense. Your's used the term esp. to add emphasis. Mine simply made the same statement your's emphasized without adding the suggestion that it was not a requirement. Mine did not say what you are saying it said. Thus, you have yet to comprehend what I'm saying.
"you haven't given me a definition of lust that is a counterexample of lust being selfish"
I provided a counter example for another type of desire, that of pride. I guess you missed it.
Here, for your reading pleasure. I give you a story of romance. A story in which the initial lustful desires of a couple for each other transcend into self-less love for each other. Yeah sometimes that actually happens. You see it is possible for lust to begat not from selfish desires but from the rewards of a loving self-less relationship in which either party would self-lessly give their time, money, nay even lives to forgo any such meaningless lust originating sexual gratification to the exclusion of their partner. Nay, I say unto you that the mere act of giving your partner pleasure may be much more gratifying than receiving same.
Thus, accusing self-less acts of giving (sexual pleasure to your partner) as being selfish acts is nonsensical, ridiculous, and provably incorrect. Ergo... proof complete.
WTF!? I can understand missing the meaning of my argument, but not understanding the implications of YOUR OWN ARGUMENT!? Actually, that's overly generous. Fuck implications. You apparently don't understand the DIRECT MEANING of what you actually posted.
You literally based your -ENTIRE- opening argument on the requirement for disregard. Let me quote it for you and tell you how you did so.
"self·ish adjective
: having or showing concern only for yourself and not for the needs or feelings of other people
Note: one can lust and still show concern, one can be lustful without being selfish about it."
First of all, the very wording of the definition you used contains the requirement I was criticizing. "Having or showing concern ONLY for yourself AND not for the needs or feelings of other people". ONLY with yourself. AND not for the needs of other people, not OR, not MAYBE. AND. Since you're so concerned with linguistics, this should be easy enough for you to grasp, I won't go into the definitions of these very basic words.
You then reinforce the portion of the definition in question with your argument. "One can lust and still show concern. . .". This implies that showing concern negates its nature as a selfish act. If that is the case, then your definition most definitely does -require- a lack of regard for others to qualify anything as selfish.
So, if I'm not comprehending what you're saying, here, it's because you're using foreign definitions of the words "and" and "only". I'm also somehow missing how your argument here doesn't contradict itself.
The only reason you gave that your counterexample showed lust that was unselfish is that it could show regard for the other person. If that regard is the only remarkable trait you've pointed out (and it is), AND that regard excuses the act of lust from being a selfish act, then how can you claim that you aren't saying that disregard for others is a requirement for selfishness? The only thing I can think of is that regard for others sometimes excuses the act and sometimes doesn't, and for reasons that you have yet to articulate. If this is the case, please expound on where the distinction lies.
Come on, man, you don't gotta keep up with my arguments, but at least keep up with your own.
Your pride example was also errant, though mostly due to the peripheral issue. . .
"It is arguably self-centered but again one can be self-centered without being selfish."
Seeing as how selfish and self-centered are synonyms, no, one cannot be self-centered without being selfish.
More importantly, though:
Since you're just splitting hairs over how some motives make the act selfish and some make it unselfish, lemme just recap the overview.
Every act performed by a conscious being is a selfish one. Literally everything you do (unless you're possessed and being literally worked like a puppet) is the result of a value decision. When you give someone money, even if you do it SPECIFICALLY because you want them to have that money so they can eat, it's -still- a selfish act. You value that person having food to eat more than you value the amount of money that you gave them. If you did not, you would not have done so. Everything you do, including acts of altruism, is designed to promote and facilitate your personal values.
As a human being, you cannot escape that you are selfish. Everything you do is selfish.
If you drop the dogma-based, negative connotations that you seem to be harboring, you'll find this fact easy to swallow and, I daresay, liberating.
Now, before you go crazy calling this a baseless accusation, consider the fact that my ideas on selfishness have led you to assume that I've never been in a truly loving, meaningful, romantic relationship. Nay, that I'm unaware that such a thing could even exist!
Sorry to burst your bubble, but when I love, I do so all out! I don't even consider telling a girl I love her unless I care more for her than my own life, and don't doubt for one moment that I'd give my life in a heartbeat for the people closest to me. The difference between you and I isn't that I care less about people. The difference is simply that I acknowledge that even my willingness to die for a loved one is a selfish thing, born of the fact that I value a reality in which I die and they live on more than the alternative.
I also acknowledge that there's nothing selfless about love, especially that of the romantic variety. If the object of your affection didn't bring some value into your life, you wouldn't love them. I know you're probably going to take that statement as overly-literally as possible, so I'll preempt: When I say value, I don't mean physical value, necessarily. I mean simply that the net result of their presence in your life is a positive, emotionally. That person being a part of your life gives you happiness. If it didn't, you wouldn't feel the way you do about them.
Some might argue that you love even those whose presence equals a net negative. Anyone can call to mind many examples of people staying in friendships and even romantic relationships that are making them miserable. Don't mistake this with love, either. If you're staying around someone who makes you miserable, it's not love, it's a misplaced sense of duty. We like to call it love because nobody wants to believe that their motives are anything other than noble, but what it truly boils down to is avoidance, 10 times out of 10, though for varying reasons. Some people don't want to feel like an asshole who got buyer's remorse with another human being, some people do it for the kids, some people just plain don't like conflict. Still selfish.
Summary: you use a broad definition of the term selfishness to include all selfless acts, thus it is in your belief system that it is impossible for a human to perform a voluntary act that is not selfish. All acts from "birth" to "death" must be selfish, thus they are all selfish, thus all acts derive from said selfish desires no matter how altruistic they may appear on the surface.
IOW your definition of selfishness is really an attempt to find a term to describe all decisions of the soul, each and every decision we make reduced to biochemical reactions to stimuli by our brain. Said more simply, you don't believe in the concept of self determination, aka. the soul.
I on the other hand, disagree. I believe that while we may be reduced to soulless knee jerk reactive decision making based on eons of evolution, I also believe that we as humans have the ability to make conscious, soulful, decisions to do the opposite of what our biochemical reactive instincts are telling us to do. I believe we can fight up stream against our better judgement to do that which is not easy, not desirable, and not selfish.
Said yet another way, I don't share your philosophy.
You don't, and you also don't seem to share the philosophy of the straw man you stood up.
Thanks for telling me what I believe, though. I didn't even realize I believed those things! You must be some kinda psychic to take a look at all the possible philosophical explanations for what I said and boil it down with such certainty to one philosophy. Super psychic, too, cuz, like I said, it's not even the philosophy I thought I held!
God damn! Not2BSubjugated, meet Not2BSubjugated!
Anyway, lemme be serious for a moment.
My definition of selfish has -nothing- to do with whether or not I believe in a soul or self-determination. As an agnostic, I assume self-determination to be the case, though I don't fully believe one way or the other on either count. My definition of selfish also isn't an attempt to boil down anything. It's simply the recognition that, as an individual consciousness, I act only according to my values.
This doesn't mean you don't have some degree of self-determination (and a soul isn't necessary for this property either, you fuckin mystic), it simply means that you cannot escape that your actions are all designed to fulfill your values. I also don't know how you managed to convince yourself that I was definitely talking about a collection of knee jerk reactions resulting from biochemical reactions to stimuli to the brain. Good lord you're a presumptuous fucker.
Why don't you stick to telling us what you believe and leave my beliefs to me. I've got a pretty good handle on what they are, thanks
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