emilynghiem
Constitutionalist / Universalist
- Jan 21, 2010
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Dear KG: Each person has his or her own struggle with forgiveness.
I've read incredible stories where parents asked divine help to forgive someone they don't even know who murdered their child, and with God's grace were able to be free and healed.
And yet a close friend of mine I've known 20 years cannot forgive the idea in his mind that I gave the keys to his apt to someone else, which I did not. He cannot forgive this and holds this against me, and says I'm the one who destroyed the friendship. ???
Of course, this does NOT mean that losing keys is more traumatic than losing a child to murder!
If people can't forgive something, that will cause them torment, apart from whatever event occurred and degree of trauma. I've seen huge insufferable injustice forgiven, and little things that could be fixed unforgiven where relations were lost over them.
BTW what Dawkins ought to focus scientific study on is the cycle of abuse caused by unforgiven conflicts or issues passed from one generation to the next.
Whether it's religious, sexual or drug abuse, the root cause is unforgiveness which causes the person to project the problem outside instead of solving it internally at the source.
And the key to healing and breaking any such cycle of abuse, sexual religious or both,
is to FORGIVE the past abuses so the mind and spirit can heal.
That is the key, forgiveness, regardless of the degree or size of the injustice.
Maybe I'll ask some of my nontheist scientist friends to try to contact him about doing more formal study on forgiveness and healing, independent of being religious or nonreligious.
I've read incredible stories where parents asked divine help to forgive someone they don't even know who murdered their child, and with God's grace were able to be free and healed.
And yet a close friend of mine I've known 20 years cannot forgive the idea in his mind that I gave the keys to his apt to someone else, which I did not. He cannot forgive this and holds this against me, and says I'm the one who destroyed the friendship. ???
Of course, this does NOT mean that losing keys is more traumatic than losing a child to murder!
If people can't forgive something, that will cause them torment, apart from whatever event occurred and degree of trauma. I've seen huge insufferable injustice forgiven, and little things that could be fixed unforgiven where relations were lost over them.
Typical. As I maintain...the progressive seeks to sexualize children, to de-criminalize sex with children, while at the same time, they seek to shut down and criminalize religion.
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In remarks to Qatar-based TV network Al Jazeera, he said: Horrible as sexual abuse no doubt was, the damage was arguably less than the long-term psychological damage inflicted by bringing the child up Catholic in the first place.
Interviewer Mehdi Hasan asked: You believe that being bought up as a Catholic is worse than being abused by a priest?.
Professor Dawkins replied: There are shades of being abused by a priest, and I quoted an example of a woman in America who wrote to me saying that when she was seven years old she was sexually abused by a priest in his car.
At the same time a friend of hers, also seven, who was of a Protestant family, died, and she was told that because her friend was Protestant she had gone to Hell and will be roasting in Hell forever.
She told me of those two abuses, she got over the physical abuse; it was yucky but she got over it.
But the mental abuse of being told about Hell, she took years to get over.
Read more: Richard Dawkins: Forcing religion on your children is child abuse, claims atheist professor | Mail Online
BTW what Dawkins ought to focus scientific study on is the cycle of abuse caused by unforgiven conflicts or issues passed from one generation to the next.
Whether it's religious, sexual or drug abuse, the root cause is unforgiveness which causes the person to project the problem outside instead of solving it internally at the source.
And the key to healing and breaking any such cycle of abuse, sexual religious or both,
is to FORGIVE the past abuses so the mind and spirit can heal.
That is the key, forgiveness, regardless of the degree or size of the injustice.
Maybe I'll ask some of my nontheist scientist friends to try to contact him about doing more formal study on forgiveness and healing, independent of being religious or nonreligious.