Do you think it's okay..........

[The ClayTaurus]

If you would watch them, you would see they aren't horse videos.

Fruit videos. You are the one with the banana fetish.

Sheesh.

Oh well in that case!



*watches*




Those aren't fruit videos, those are fruity HORSE videos! Damn you man!

 

[Joz]

True.
People with different beliefs may disagree, but my POV is that we are spiritual creatures living inside our bodies. Whatever we do in our bodies affects our souls. So, bonding bodies=bonding souls.
If the emotions are wrong, the whole thing is messed up. But, that act still affects the PEOPLE involved.

Mom, you said so much in this paragraph I don't know where to start!

While sex isn't as emotional for men as women, it is the mature man that realizes the act affects him emotionally as well. Men are better able to 'compartmentalize' therefore more easily able to seperate act from emotion.
Sex was created to fill a need in man. Thru sex man gets love, intimacy, continuity.

So many men, young & not-so-young I've talked with 'cry in their beer' (so to speak) because: "the love of their life, left them." If it isn't emotional, why should it matter? Find another to replace her. And some try quite quickly to do this, thinking this will fill the emptiness of that lost love. But there needs to be a mourning period, a time of emotional healing.

And (finally) sex is not an emotion. Sex is a drive; something that can be controlled. Emotions are a result, a reaction.

 

[Bonnie]

I suppose I always wonder why couples who have a great sex life to begin with would need or want porn??

 

[dmp]

While sex isn't as emotional for men as women, it is the mature man that realizes the act affects him emotionally as well. Men are better able to 'compartmentalize' therefore more easily able to seperate act from emotion.
Sex was created to fill a need in man. Thru sex man gets love, intimacy, continuity.

'generally' speaking...not all men.

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

I suppose I always wonder why couples who have a great sex life to begin with would need or want porn??

In a one-sided situation, you wouldn't. However, I know women
and men alike who both enjoy adult films and enjoy watching them together.
Same for couples who like to role play.

 

[Joz]

'generally' speaking...not all men.

Generally speaking.

In a one-sided situation, you wouldn't. However, I know women and men alike who both enjoy adult films and enjoy watching them together. Same for couples who like to role play.

Role playing does not have the same effect as does porn.

Personally, now, I don't see why any of us are arguing this point. It isn't any different than say, abortion or homosexuality. If two people consent, what's it to anybody else? Where's the harm?

 

[Bonnie]

In a one-sided situation, you wouldn't. However, I know women
and men alike who both enjoy adult films and enjoy watching them together.
Same for couples who like to role play.

Hey whatever makes people happy right

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

Role playing does not have the same effect as does porn.

Please explain.

 

[GotZoom]

Please explain.

Playing "escaped convict and the warden's wife" is different than playing "Larry Flynt and the audition couch."

 

[Bonnie]

dmp...See? Catholics got it wrong. Sex isn't for 'just procreation' - Sex is THE bonding action which drives a man's spirit to join with the soul of the woman. Sex is what bonds and nurtures and heals.

Um Darin hate to break it to you but Catholics do not see sex as simply a means to make babies, the church encourages married couples to have great sex often and sees it as the one of the most important parts of married life. I think many people just assume otherwise because of
the stereotyping of Catholics.....

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

Playing "escaped convict and the warden's wife" is different than playing "Larry Flynt and the audition couch."

Not so.
Men are considered "visual" creatures for the most part.
Dressing up and doing it, has the same affect as watching someone
dress up and do it. The influence used for stimulation is all role playing.

 

[Joz]

Please explain.

What harm is there if I dress up like a maid and seduce the man-of-the-house? Or when Mm gives me a peck before going up on stage for him to "keep that thought" ? That is 'spice' between the two of us.
When you introduce porn into your life, you are allowing someone else into the marital bed with you. The intimacy between two people has been violated.

"Pornography feeds lust of the eyes and lust of the flesh, which are never satisfied. It leaves the viewer craving more and more in order to achieve the same "sexual high." It easily enslaves people to their own cravings and opens the door to other forms of evil, like anger, abuse, violence, hatred, lying, envy, compulsiveness and selfishness. The power behind porn is revealed when the porn addict tries to stop their habit - its virtually impossible without help."

http://www.porn-free.org/porn_is_bad.htm

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

What harm is there if I dress up like a maid and seduce the man-of-the-house? Or when Mm gives me a peck before going up on stage for him to "keep that thought" ? That is 'spice' between the two of us.
When you introduce porn into your life, you are allowing someone else into the marital bed with you. The intimacy between two people has been violated.

"Pornography feeds lust of the eyes and lust of the flesh, which are never satisfied. It leaves the viewer craving more and more in order to achieve the same "sexual high." It easily enslaves people to their own cravings and opens the door to other forms of evil, like anger, abuse, violence, hatred, lying, envy, compulsiveness and selfishness. The power behind porn is revealed when the porn addict tries to stop their habit - its virtually impossible without help."

http://www.porn-free.org/porn_is_bad.htm

Same goes for making the man lust after something different.
You as a maid, is not REALLY you. Might as well watch some other
girl dressed as a maid, same stimulation

 

[Bonnie]

Same goes for making the man lust after something different.
You as a maid, is not REALLY you. Might as well watch some other
girl dressed as a maid, same stimulation

That has flaws though because if Joz were to dress up in lingerie what's the difference, it's still her in the outfit not some other woman, so therefore it is JOz who is being lusted after right??

 

[GotZoom]

Not so.
Men are considered "visual" creatures for the most part.
Dressing up and doing it, has the same affect as watching someone
dress up and do it. The influence used for stimulation is all role playing.

I was actually kidding but since you posted this I will ask....

Would you feel the same if one spouse wanted the other spouse to dress up as a 14 year old?

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

That has flaws though because if Joz were to dress up in lingerie what's the difference, it's still her in the outfit not some other woman, so therefore it is JOz who is being lusted after right??

Lingerie is not role playing.

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

I was actually kidding but since you posted this I will ask....

Would you feel the same if one spouse wanted the other spouse to dress up as a 14 year old?

That's just sick, but some people get off on that.

 

[Bonnie]

Lingerie is not role playing.

Says who? Maid, Nurse, Cop, whatever, it's still Joz in the outfit, it's not another woman getting a man aroused and then him using Joz's body just for the sexual release.

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

Says who? Maid, Nurse, Cop, whatever, it's still Joz in the outfit, it's not another woman getting a man aroused and then him using Joz's body just for the sexual release.

Role playing involves pretending to be someone else, not just dress up.
EXAMPLE:
Maid enters room dusting and acting provacative.
After some visual stimulation man says something like
"I've got some wood you can polish."

With that said, the man is arroused by the maid,
which can be done by any image of a maid acting sexual.

 

[Joz]

Role playing involves pretending to be someone else, not just dress up.
EXAMPLE:
Maid enters room dusting and acting provacative.
After some visual stimulation man says something like
"I've got some wood you can polish."

With that said, the man is arroused by the maid,
which can be done by any image of a maid acting sexual.

That is NOT me pretending to be someone else. That is me pretending to have another occupation. There is quite a difference.

And what about a man dressing up & pretending to be a human being???