Cecilie1200
Diamond Member
I am currently working my way through some familial issues on a therapeutic front. I know "to err is human, to forgive divine" *even though I don't actually know where the saying is from*. And I grasp the concept of seventy-times-seven. What I'm having trouble with is part of that last bit. And I don't care if you are Christian, pagan, wiccan, atheist, I would just appreciate some feedback.
How do you forgive someone who doesn't want to be forgiven because they don't believe they did anything wrong. Essentially, I'm having trouble just letting go of them believing an untruth about me, no matter how many times we discuss the situation. Not only that, but they think I need to ask their forgiveness for something I didn't do.
The issue in question is several decades old but nobody has picked at the scar for some time now.
I've been praying, meditating - and pretty much posting here to avoid dealing with the fact that I can't seem to come to grips with this issue.
Forgiveness isn't necessarily about the person you're forgiving, and it's not necessarily dependent on their asking for it or accepting it. In your case, forgiveness is about reaching a point where you can let go of the hatred, bitterness, and resentment toward that person for your own good. It doesn't matter if that person EVER agrees with you that what they did was wrong. What matters is that YOU need to be free of the incident and to allow yourself to heal.