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I think any parent who spanks out of anger is wrong. This doesn't mean I don't think a child should be spanked.
any discipline out of pure anger is wrong
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I think any parent who spanks out of anger is wrong. This doesn't mean I don't think a child should be spanked.
Robin Williams in "Live at the Met" did this joke:Playing with one of my friends' two year old one day, I asked him:
"What do you say if Mommy yells at you to stop?"
He looked at me, all wide-eyed and innocent.
"I want my lawyer!"
Mommy gave me the Look of Evil, and then we both laughed till we nearly peed ourselves
But the REASON it was funny is just wretched.
That's what I said but in short.I think any parent who spanks out of anger is wrong. This doesn't mean I don't think a child should be spanked.
Of course, when done in anger it crosses the line and is just plain stupid. Eventually in many cases it would result in alienating your own children, plus pass on the insanity to their children.
I have flip flopped on this issue in the past, but think I firm in my beliefs on it now. Personally I think that spanking is acceptable until the kid is old enough to reason for themselves that what they are doing is wrong. Obviously since this has to do with maturity and reasoning skills the exact age the spankings would stop changes. Before the reasoning age kids really don't have enough mental ability to get how what they are doing effects others enough for them to stop doing it.
After this age I find "mental" punishment to be much more effective than physical. For instance with my step-son instead of any spanking when he does something wrong, we make him write notes/letters about how what he did affects others negatively and how it have others change their thoughts on him (like when he lies we can't trust him etc). These punishments seem to have a much longer lasting effect and actually cause him to reason why hes doing whats wrong instead of just fearing a quick spanking whose pain will go away shortly after.
Do you consider frustration anger? I ask because I can't recall a parent who spanked who wasn't frustrated by the reason for punishment.I think any parent who spanks out of anger is wrong. This doesn't mean I don't think a child should be spanked.
any discipline out of pure anger is wrong
I wish corporal punishment was still in our Schools. I know with the threat of that big hole paddle it kept me in line a lot. I did get that paddle one time and it really did help me.
I wish corporal punishment was still in our Schools. I know with the threat of that big hole paddle it kept me in line a lot. I did get that paddle one time and it really did help me.
My parents spanked me, and only had to do it once in awhile, mostly because I had the fear in me. I just knew what would happen, and that was enough. I will spank my son, and I have tapped him on his diaper covered butt, and like someone else said you don't have to do it to where it hurts. I can tap my son on the butt, and there is no way it hurt him, but he knows he is in trouble.
My son also has a high pain tolerance, so I don't know how well spanking will work when he gets older.
Do you have a plan to end it at a certain age like I discussed in the OP or whats your thoughts on that?
My parents spanked me, and only had to do it once in awhile, mostly because I had the fear in me. I just knew what would happen, and that was enough. I will spank my son, and I have tapped him on his diaper covered butt, and like someone else said you don't have to do it to where it hurts. I can tap my son on the butt, and there is no way it hurt him, but he knows he is in trouble.
My son also has a high pain tolerance, so I don't know how well spanking will work when he gets older.
Do you have a plan to end it at a certain age like I discussed in the OP or whats your thoughts on that?
I don't have a plan to end it at a certain age, my parents stopped spanking me when I was about ten. My dad did spank me once when I was twelve, but I am sure I deserved it.
I also don't plan on using that method often, for one they will become immune to it. My parents didn't do it all the time, because they knew we would fear it more. I will also add, besides the normal kid stuff I was a well behaved child.
I liked to be spanked now, also.
My father would tell us we were getting our spanking before bedtime. We could go several hours with business as usual around the house then came the spanking.
Pretty messed up, but effective. I often wondered if we were his captive experiments lol.
Do you consider frustration anger? I ask because I can't recall a parent who spanked who wasn't frustrated by the reason for punishment.I think any parent who spanks out of anger is wrong. This doesn't mean I don't think a child should be spanked.
any discipline out of pure anger is wrong
I wish corporal punishment was still in our Schools. I know with the threat of that big hole paddle it kept me in line a lot. I did get that paddle one time and it really did help me.
All punishment like the paddle does is make you grow to fear authority instead of respecting it. A bunch of people in society who merely fear authority is a society on the edge and not good.
I wish corporal punishment was still in our Schools. I know with the threat of that big hole paddle it kept me in line a lot. I did get that paddle one time and it really did help me.