WinterBorn
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- Nov 18, 2011
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I mean regarding "problem resolution" when you both, "want it Your way."I never mentioned "flipping a coin." Have a sit-down and look into each other's eyes and listen. If you are supposed to be "committed," then commit. Do vows mean nothing? One commits to these vows for all his or her life. When you go to the Christian altar, the Jewish chappah, and the sacred rites of all other religions, it is a commitment of one person to another.What is your opinion of simply "flipping a coin"? Heads, you get it Your way and Tails, i get it My way.What is missing from these "discussions" of heterosexuality and sexual health is honest discussion, leaving aggression at the door. If one can have sex in the bedroom, one can have an honest discussion in the kitchen. The idea is not only to talk about what you want, it is also to sit down and listen to how the other person feels and what s/he wants. It takes commitment and work. To those "religious" folks who think that sex is just fucking, like they continually portray it, it's not.
You talk it out. Anything that either person puts as off limits is off limits. If there is something that either person doesn't want to do, you don't do it.