Ok, children did not have counsel present at Obergefell briefing the court on whether or not their benefits from the marriage contract, both mother & father, should be taken away.
There's your example of kids being treated like chattel.
Obergefell was not a case about children- it was a case about marriage.
Funny how you think that children should have had counsel in Obergefell- but not in every single divorce case that happens in America.