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Ahhhh, yes. Ribeye steaks for dinner....... I shoulda bought more....... And had seconds......
Took Mrs. BBD out to the Steak Pit in Oregon tonight for supper. She had a Ribeye - well, half of a Ribeye. She brought the other half home in a doggie bag. I ordered a New York Strip Steak. Brought half of mine home too. I can almost bet what will be for lunch tomorrow...
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
I know only too well what your poor grand child is going through, having suffered bullying right from the day I started school to the day I finally left, after enduring enough.
If the school has an anti bullying policy in place, they should take care of the matter, however, sometimes they think its too much trouble, and just think that if they ignore it, the problem will somehow go away.
Your grand daughter should threaten to go to a local media outlet. Schools hate bad publicity, and if members of the public find out that a child is being severely bullied and nothing is being done, you can bet the school will scramble to find a solution.
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
I know only too well what your poor grand child is going through, having suffered bullying right from the day I started school to the day I finally left, after enduring enough.
If the school has an anti bullying policy in place, they should take care of the matter, however, sometimes they think its too much trouble, and just think that if they ignore it, the problem will somehow go away.
Your grand daughter should threaten to go to a local media outlet. Schools hate bad publicity, and if members of the public find out that a child is being severely bullied and nothing is being done, you can bet the school will scramble to find a solution.
I discussed both options with my daughter. She's been trying to contact the school, has left voice messages and email. I am concerned that there may be inadequate or even inappropriate action by the school. When my granddaughter reported her problem to the bus driver, she was told he only drives the bus. Other options include home-schooling or requesting a variance to put the child in another school. I suggested that she press charges. What she's described to me is clearly sexual harassment.
I'm glad you have overcome your mistreatment. You seem to be doing quite well for yourself.
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
No way I would subject my child to that. And shame on the school for refusing to deal with it. And I am really big on homeschooling but it does require a great deal of dedication and discipline from the parent to do it. But if that is an option and your daughter is up to it. . . .or if there isn't a good parochial or private school as another option. . . .
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
6 Steps to Take if Your Child Is Being Bullied | Legal News | Lawyers.com
Bullying: Help your child handle a bully - Mayo Clinic
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
6 Steps to Take if Your Child Is Being Bullied | Legal News | Lawyers.com
Bullying: Help your child handle a bully - Mayo Clinic
Thanks for the links. I will forward them to my daughter, although she's already done or is doing most of those things. The granddaughter has tried ignoring and walking away, only to get slapped in the back of her head if she turns her back. My daughter also told me she was going to request any plan of action by school officials be provided in writing. Depending on the response from the school, she plans on consulting JAG.
My daughter called me with a major dilemma today. My oldest granddaughter has become the target of the school bus bullies. And their brand of harassment has a very distinct sexual aspect.
So, the child came home in tears. After intense interrogation, the girl was able to tell my daughter some of what transpired, but not all because it is so...nasty, she does not feel comfortable repeating it.
The little girl (middle school aged) told my daughter that some other children were administering "hand jobs" to others. When asked whether she wanted to participate, she told them they were disgusting. She was then accused of masturbating. She doesn't even know what that means. As the bus was passing a dead skunk, my granddaughter was told to close her legs. There's more, but my daughter has been unable to coax the child into describing it all. These are 11-14 year old kids. My daughter has contacted school authorities but isn't very hopeful that much will be done. She says it is all she can do to resist marching down the street and asking the parents of the boy involved what their son's problem is. She's ready to pull both girls out of public school and home-school them. (The younger girl has also been having problems.)
Any suggestions?
The squeaky wheel gets the grease...both of your granddaughter's parents should be visiting the administration in person and making it very clear that they will continue to be in their office daily until this issue is addressed and resolved. I can guarantee from my experience in education that administrators will pacify those who they think will accept it...they might be intimidated to deal with the parents of bullies because more than likely, they're assholes who have set the example for their kids. I'm sorry that your granddaughter has to deal with such nonsense...growing up is already challenging enough.
One thing to do in a bullying case is document, document, document. Hound the school administration as a school bus is technically school property and the school is required by law to address the problem. Consult with a lawyer, find one that will offer a free consultation. If it can be determined there was any physical contact between the bully and the bullied then contact law enforcement and file a report.
And number one, no matter how upset the parent is do not get emotional! Stay calm but firm in all your dealings with everyone involved and let your child know they are not the one at fault, that he or she did nothing wrong. The child is the injured party here, not the parent, keep that in focus.
One thing to do in a bullying case is document, document, document. Hound the school administration as a school bus is technically school property and the school is required by law to address the problem. Consult with a lawyer, find one that will offer a free consultation. If it can be determined there was any physical contact between the bully and the bullied then contact law enforcement and file a report.
And number one, no matter how upset the parent is do not get emotional! Stay calm but firm in all your dealings with everyone involved and let your child know they are not the one at fault, that he or she did nothing wrong. The child is the injured party here, not the parent, keep that in focus.
When I was in the 7th grade there was a guy on our school bus that was always bulling me. Every day. I didn't pay much attention to him but yet he kept at it. Then one day on the school bus he said that there was going to be a neighborhood football game that afternoon and I had better show up for it because he was going to beat me up at the football game. I got home from school and my mother made me sit down and begin my homework. Well, about 20 minutes later here was this clown and about half of the neighborhood kids and he asked my mother if I could come out and play football with the guys. My mother said I could go so I went. When we got to the football field the bully stated that it was time for him to kick my butt. He hit me and I decided that I had really had all of his crap and that there would be no more of it after today. I beat the snot out of this loudmouth. Of course, about an hour later, he and his mother was at my house and his mother was making all sorts of noise about what a "bad" kid I was. Then it was my turn to talk and I told the story about how he was bullying everybody on the school bus, including me, and he said that today was the day that he was going to beat me up. After his mother heard the other side of the story, and I had beat the snot out of him, for some strange reason he was always fairly nice to everybody. I never had anymore trouble from him.
Thanks, Spoonman. I sweated buckets for two hours of "physical therapy" this afternoon. I pushed the new lawnmower and completed mowing down the grass that grew due to all the lawn equipment having malfunctioned, run into the swamp area and unavailable till late May. The small riding mower had its belt to the blade slip off again, and I don't know how to fix it, and my husband, who used to do all that stuff, can't think it through any more due to his dementia. It's funny how he has some skills, and others have evaporated.Isn't the abacus a device that dates back to 5,000BC in China or something?
I have to do physical therapy for the next few days. Will drop by and answer pms already in my mailbox here as time and energy permits.
Huge hug, everybody!
yes, the thing with the little balls that slide.
Hope you are healling well
I know only too well what your poor grand child is going through, having suffered bullying right from the day I started school to the day I finally left, after enduring enough.
If the school has an anti bullying policy in place, they should take care of the matter, however, sometimes they think its too much trouble, and just think that if they ignore it, the problem will somehow go away.
Your grand daughter should threaten to go to a local media outlet. Schools hate bad publicity, and if members of the public find out that a child is being severely bullied and nothing is being done, you can bet the school will scramble to find a solution.
I discussed both options with my daughter. She's been trying to contact the school, has left voice messages and email. I am concerned that there may be inadequate or even inappropriate action by the school. When my granddaughter reported her problem to the bus driver, she was told he only drives the bus. Other options include home-schooling or requesting a variance to put the child in another school. I suggested that she press charges. What she's described to me is clearly sexual harassment.
I'm glad you have overcome your mistreatment. You seem to be doing quite well for yourself.
Sorry, I used to drive bus, and I do believe he is full of shit. The mom should call the school bus company, explain what is happening and ask how happy they'll be with a lawsuit.
Beating the snot out of a bully, as you say, won't have any effect. Especially if the bully gathers their mates around to defend them and goes after your grand daughter. Most bullies operate as part of a team - they bully to look powerful to their mates. Get them on their own and they are nervous as hell.
Bullies are weak and will usually bully another person because they lack confidence themselves.
Beating the snot out of a bully, as you say, won't have any effect. Especially if the bully gathers their mates around to defend them and goes after your grand daughter. Most bullies operate as part of a team - they bully to look powerful to their mates. Get them on their own and they are nervous as hell.
Bullies are weak and will usually bully another person because they lack confidence themselves.
Actually, my experience is that bullies have "mates" because their mates are terrified to stand up to them. Not only is the bully weak, so are his "mates". It's easier and safer for them to "hang with" and support the bully than to do otherwise. If you take the big bully down, his mates will usually beat a retreat lest they suffer the same fate.
My daughter has seen fit to teach her girls that violence is not the solution. She is persuing all other avenues right now. Me, I'd get the girls into TaeKwaDo, or some other unarmed defense course.
How did you deal with your bullies?
