Michelle420
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Like drifter, I also lost many family members last year (sil, aunt, dad and mom between May 20 and June 10, hubs uncle late June, both my brothers had their cats put down in Oct, my mother's last living sibling her oldest sister 12/14, hubs aunt 12/24). Like many in this situation I gained some poundage.
My eating and exercise routine went out the window and after mid-July or so I found it impossible to do much of anything ... stopped exercising, stopped watching what I ate, stopped cooking, sat around most of the time. For some reason going to the grocery store became very difficult for me. I would just get so freaking sad there. Maybe because I was usually by myself and was just grieving but I avoided it as much as possible.
From Sept on tried many, many times to get some semblance of an exercise routine going and failed every time. Eating right wasn't any better. Cripes, the poor dogs have even been affected as their daily dog walks became practically non-existent.
Am slowly starting to get back to exercising and eating right. Sometimes it's two steps forward, one step backwards. I'll take that.
There are still days that I am too tired to even try. I don't know if it's still part of the grieving process or that I'm not getting enough sleep. Maybe both?
Prior to all this I had a great routine of walking/running on the treadmill (had even run 5K a few times on there!) and a variety of strength, hiit, cross training, yoga workouts plus nearly daily dog walks of 1.5 miles. Now I'm just trying to walk a brisk pace for 1/2 hour on the tm and doing some yoga and pilates to get myself moving. Some days are better than others.
I've been down this (weight loss) road before and know what it takes to see results ... it's just harder this time.
I can tell you that motivation is fleeting, determination and commitment are what will get you to your goals.
I've always been a calorie counter type because that's what works for me. 1500/day is my goal and know that once I lose even 5 lbs that often pushes me to stay on track. Also, sticking with a strict number of cals per day can cause plateaus after some time, so zig-zagging your cals (eating say 1300 one day, 1600 the next, 1450, the next, etc) can help get past that. Kind of like what interval workouts do, keep your body from becoming used to everything.
Great thread, pacer. Thanks for starting it.
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I was still functioning and exercising but when my sister died (suicide) I lost all interest in anything. I just slept alot and watched netflix and posted. Everything felt like a big effort to even get out of bed.
Going to school was as much energy as I could expand.
In the back of my mind I know getting back into my exercise would help me mentally and physically.
But it's been real hard to do.