but with the NFL, the argument wasn't on whether they should be allowed to kneel during the anthem... because of free speech and all....Let's be serious here. 'Eat me' is a totally inappropriate way for a supervisor to talk to a subordinate. Any supervisor who talks to a subordinate that way should be reprimanded. Once I had one tell me to 'get the hell out of my office' when she thought I was disagreeing with her; she was misunderstanding what I was saying. I was totally shocked to be spoken to that way. By that time I'd been working for over 20 years and had never had a supervisor talk to me that way. I could have reported her, but I let it go. However, though I worked with her appropriately from then on, she did not have any support or confidnce from me other than what was necessary.Well it is a rant, that's for sure. You are still angry after all these years, and you seem to completely dismiss the validity of all and any complaints about sexual harassment in the work place. I think probably some of them are over done, like the one that was made against you. But a lot of them, probably most, have validity. If men are touching women's bottoms or breasts or kissing them also embracing them, without a clear invitation to do so, they is clearly inappropriate. And I do know as a woman who worked for over 40 years, that if you complain about something, you put yourself in jeopardy for being labeled a trouble maker and even losing your job or not getting any promotions. I think there is validity in this situation, all the reporting. Hopefully it will cause a change to occur in how people treat each other in the work place.
The point of the post you quoted is that I don't believe that this current situatin is a result of any kind of conspiracy. I think it is a natural event in the evolutionary process of society. Years ago putting in place the right to make such complaints ws part of that evolution, but it has not been successful. Maybe now more will happen to make things better for all concerned.
I posted also, maybe in another thread, that I think training needs to take place for all to understand thoroughly how to behave toward each other. I know there is sexual harassment training in many businesses now, but apparently it is not that successful. What should be done is re-evaluate what is being taught and improve upon it. This current situation will shake people up a lot, which should also help.
I always thought Matt |Lauer was a good guy, but saw a video yesterday in which Katie Couric said he pinched her on the butt all the time. This was from an interview years ago when they worked together on the morning show. She had never made a complaint about it. That's what happens a lot probably, and men just go on and on doing stuff like that.
In your rant you essentially blame the women for either encouraging or allowing the behavior. Or both. Do you seriously think that Katie Couric encouraged that kind of attention from Matt Lauer? Why didn't she complain? I don't know, but one thing that comes to mind is she would be seen as a complainer and not a 'team player.' Labels which can cause you big problems at work.
If "Eat me" is gonna trigger a lawsuit, we're gonna need a LIST of phrases that are banned from the workplace.
For ME? I prefer settling this other ways than calling "Eat Me" -- sexual harrassment. MAYBE -- if it's chronic and accompanied by illustrations.That demeans the meaning of the term..
Supervisors should work to get along amicably with all co-workers and treat them with respect even if they seem out of line. Saying 'eat me' to one should result in at least a reprimand.
As a supervisor or manager whatcha gonna do if an employee pulls that on you? Two guys? Two girls? It's not sexual actually.. And it leads to an official LIST of banned phrases now considered "sexual assault". We best tred carefully here.
And remember the NFL argument that some were using. That although it's a WORKPLACE, that freedom of offensive speech and protests should be allowed.
They WERE ALLOWED to kneel, and there was no existing NFL rule to stop the kneeling....and NFL owners made no move to change it....
The argument came from the people who did not like the NFL's position as the private owners, to allow it....these people wanted to force their position and opinion of the kneeling players being suspended or penalized... on to the owners....