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I think the goal is always forgiveness...no matter what the person has done. If you're unable to forgive just let go. Life from a mental health perspective is all about constant adjustment. If you cannot forgive...learn to let it go. Holding on to negative emotion has never benefited anyone.
that is my point.... there is no need to forgive. If you cant, just let it go and move on.
forgiving is not the key to moving on....
Forgiveness is the most spiritually evolved position. I struggle with true forgiveness. But you're right....at minimum find a way to let it go. Boop needs to make her own decision whether or not she's in a place to forgive. It does sound like she's trying to let in go. Hopefully the work she is doing is helpful.![]()
I am not worried about the spiritually of any of anything... spirituality and mental health are two separate issues and events.
what i am gathering in all of this.... is she is trying very hard to forgive but is conflicted that in process. Being conflicted is not a good place to be either. That leads to its own issues separate from the main event. Not a good mental health place to be.
it is better to move on, let go it all... and just deal with not being able to forgive something unforgivable.
some people and the things they do ... flat out do not deserve to be forgiven. It is not wrong to not forgive.