EverCurious
Gold Member
When my first wife and I divorced, I had the kids and she paid child support. When I took a job that involved travel, she had custody and I paid child support.
But the biggest thing we did was to work it out without the gov't getting involved. We both did what was best for the kids. We put them first. They never heard a bad word about the other parent from either of us.
Yea if you can avoid getting CSED involved it's best to do that for sure. When my ex and I split up the only reason we put it in child support was for insurance and so that they'd take the money out of his paychecks automatically as he didn't want to forget/have to mess with it - we haven't touched it for over 15 years; despite his increased income, despite one of the boys moving in with him for a few years during HS (by kidos choice,) etc. We figure it works out in the long run, and either way its for our kiddos, so who cares (of course neither of us has financial issues either.) In any event we are both terrified to mess with anything because CSED just tries to hose the father no matter what, (even if the father is the custodian,) we were seriously worried that ACA's passage requiring changes in his health insurance would cause a reevaluation of the case, but luckily it didn't. With online transfers from personal bank accounts available these days, we probably would have skipped CSED all together.