Good advice but I feel understanding does add value to my life.If you spent half the time trying to understand what you are criticizing rather than looking for criticisms you might actually get something from the time you are wasting on something that doesn't add one ounce of value in your life.
There are other answers and there are more fundamental contradictions. If I recall my John correctly, Jesus goes around telling everyone he is divine. In the synoptics his followers are clueless.Here's your answer....