I'm not sensitive about my age, so I think those women are kinda funny.So to you it is more important to call them Ma'am than to respect their feelings? Are you sure that's actually using good manners, Cecile?Calling some women Ma'am can cause serious fireworks. It makes them feel old and they'll TELL you. I've seen it happen.manners are free...good manners are priceless
And I will tell those women flatly that in the South, it has nothing to do with age. It just means they're female.
Well, to them it's more important to hear their names than to respect my culture, so why precisely do their feelings rate higher than mine? For that matter, I consider there to be a hard limit on the good manners due someone who manifests no comprehension or appreciation of them, which "they'll TELL you" indicates to me.
You and I have a different idea of good manners, I guess. To me, it involves being sensitive to the other person's feelings. To you, it seems to be about YOUR feelings. So fine, insist on calling people what makes YOU happy whether they like it or not. But don't make it their fault. That's entirely on you.
I get your point and agree with it in theory...but what are we supposed to do, carry a notebook with us with what every individual likes to be called and refer to it when greeting them?