DGS49
Diamond Member
Here's one way to look at it. If you are consumed by your "hate" then you are allowing that person (or persons) to take up residence in your head, which harms you more than it does him (them).
Get over it.
I had the same thing with my B-I-L. He accused me of tricking my in-laws into making me the Executor of their wills (no issues with the actual inheritance, which was modest). When he spread the word in the family (my wife's family) he provided no details, he just told everyone that I had tricked my in-laws to change their will.
I forced myself not to give a fuck. My wife is still pissed, 13 years later, but I am over it. I treat him cordially, just like everyone else in the family.
Get over it.
I had the same thing with my B-I-L. He accused me of tricking my in-laws into making me the Executor of their wills (no issues with the actual inheritance, which was modest). When he spread the word in the family (my wife's family) he provided no details, he just told everyone that I had tricked my in-laws to change their will.
I forced myself not to give a fuck. My wife is still pissed, 13 years later, but I am over it. I treat him cordially, just like everyone else in the family.