Montrovant
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Well we all have our personal beliefs. That's neither here nor there. Giving someone a choice and explaining that you think that behaving in a certain way will not benefit them is not the same as telling them what to do. It's simply giving them the option of doing the right thing.
Telling someone what to do, in our language, is giving an order. Not a choice.
Telling someone what they should do, however, is not an order.
When you tell someone they will experience some terrible consequence if they do not behave in a certain way, that is, IMO, telling them what they should do. They certainly retain the choice as to whether or not to actually do it, it isn't an order, but it gets the point across that they ought to.