emilynghiem
Constitutionalist / Universalist
We've already established, Emily, that you have a very different perspective of "Christianity" - and I use that term loosely in your case - than does pretty much everyone else who calls themselves a Christian. So, this thread, and the question posed, and the feedback it is generating, isn't really directed at you.You seem to think that "forced" is referring to only active force. You want to ignore the concept of coercion. Again, why is my belief relevant? Is it your contention that hell will cease to exist with my disbelief? Is it your contention that my disbelief will pr3event my being condemned to Hell?Is my belief relevant?So you believe in the Christian god and the Hell that Christianity tells you, exists?
Of course it is. You're the one claiming you're being forced. So answer the question.
Dear Czernobog
I'd say that what causes suffering ie sends people through hell is unforgiveness, holding on to ill will, living by retribution, and generally responding to negative with more negative so people stay stuck in an unhealthy destructive cycle.
This isn't something that needs to be coerced.
It is a natural law of cause and effect, karma or justice, whatever you call it.
With kids we might push them to learn by reinforcing boundaries for protection and safety. for adults, we learn by trial and error and suffering consequences of our actions.
The real message is forgiveness, having charity and compassion for each other despite our worst faults, which overcomes fear and allows us to make corrections (instead of fear and avoidance of change if we don't let go and have more compassion than distrust toward each other's motives).
the key to faith is when forgiveness comes first, by leap of faith, then the corrections and understanding follow "after the fact."
This defies normal human logic, where we would expect the correction to come first, proof of people's intent and actions, before we forgive. but that's not how life works.
If we wait for conditions to be met before we forgive, we can stay stuck in negative emotions and these prevent us from SOLVING the problems, so it creates a vicious trap. To break through this deadlock, that's why the forgiveness untangles the emotions first AND THEN the logical problem solving, correction, restitution and other steps necessary to restore "justice and peace" follow AFTER the decision to forgive. So it's backwards, and that's where FAITH is required to make this leap.
So Czernobog that's the best explanation I can give for what it means to have faith first, in peace and justice, BEFORE the facts and proof follow afterward. As "secular gentiles" who use reason and logic, if we look at real life examples of how people have forgiven and healed of really disastrous damaging wrongs, then we can see "proof" that this process works. We can understand it somewhat in advance of making the choice.
But when it comes to real life issues to forgive, we still have to make that choice to take that "leap of faith". We are not guaranteed our generosity and forgiveness will not be abused, we have the choice to forgive "unconditionally" so we agree not to depend on the outcome to be at peace. And that's where true peace comes from, letting go of those material conditions and expectations "on outcome" (as ding so neatly puts it).
So that's the faith and peace of mind that both the Christians and the Buddhists teach. It takes both the heart to choose love over fear, and takes the mind agreeing to let go, so that's why we have Christianity to teach the ways of the heart and Buddhism to teach the ways of the mind, and we need both in order to reconcile our consciences where heart and mind can agree in peace.
Although, on that note, do feel free to engage ding to your beady little heart's desire. Lemme know how that works out for ya.
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Thanks Czernobog You have at it, too.
But I'll tell you, the successes I've seen people have talking with Christians are best achieved by fellow Christians correcting each other because they have committed to follow the same laws to establish common truth. The best way I know to establish agreement with a secular gentile is using nontheistic terms.
I rarely see much change come from either nontheists or theists trying to change each other's views by attacking one and defending the other. The most they will do is further convince themselves it's hopeless and the others are wrong. So they learn that doesn't work.
I can try to speak to each person here using your own system, and see if that helps get past the conflicts.
In the process of reconciliation, I have found it's not a matter of "changing anyone's beliefs" but changing our perception of those beliefs that won't change.
It's a huge relief when people discover they don't need to convert anyone from the native language or system they naturally use. That's usually the breakthrough that allows communication to take place after that, without any need to force change or make anyone wrong.
In the process we all find we have changes and improvements we can make but it's EQUAL. so nobody is changing anyone else, though we may change our approach or perspective to INCLUDE where the other person is coming from. And vice versa where they do the same for us.
Take care and THANKS for this thread. I think it is super to be able to discuss at this level, and believe a lot of good ideas and insights will come from it.
Thank you Czernobog and also ding and others here. Carry on and don't stop until it's all clear. I'd love to see where this goes and ends....