Then you need to seriously think about ALL of the lessons you are teaching your children in this analogy. How is the work one puts forth for candy different from the work put forth for an alloowance?
i understand more now of what you were trying to get across bern and missed it initially because somehow i glazed over the ages of her children when reading her initial post and felt at a very young age, when first starting out trick or treating, i think the lesson of sharing with family and friends is appropriate....
my older sister, got to continue trick or treating, after she did the rounds with me and then brought me home, she then went out with her friends for more.
so, no matter what, for a few years there in my youth, my sister always got more, because as you indicated, she worked harder for it....by walking to many more houses than me...mainly due to her being older....either way, all of her candy hit the table as well as my measly amount and it was shared for the night....my sister never complained or felt abused by having to share her candy with me and (dad)....
in fact, we shared everything when young, including a bedroom for many years, even though we had an extra one....until she became a teen.
i don't think my parents failed me....they also taught me work ethics and the importance of studying and making something of myself....halloween was not used to do this....in our household....
it was not until i was a preteen and began working by babysitting did those lessons begin and carry throughout high school...for example, they bought me only the basics when it came to school clothes, if i wanted more, i had to work for the money to buy them myself, my allowances were also performanced based, i also got paid for every A on my report card....had to save for my first car ...a multitude of things that actually, in hindsite, might have made me a workaholic for more than 20 years...due to the rewarding feelings i got from accomplishing things....
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