Eaglewings
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- Aug 9, 2012
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Feeling sorry for the victim doesn't help them. Teach them to stand up and be strong. Do the right thing.Abuse is taking away power emotionally and physically .
An abused person is beat down by the manipular .. and are scared to death to leave or rock the boat.
This is why abuse hotlines, abuse shelters are there to help them come to terms with taking their power back.. Some try to leave and are murdered or dragged through hell in court .
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It is much more complicated than that..they are victims.
My mom died by the hands of an abuser in 1976
And this happened to some good friends of mine.. I watched the boy grow up.
That’s sad, but doesn’t implicate everyone just because it happened to you
I studied this, and have my state board license.. I worked to get abused pregnant women off the streets who were addicted , and most had healthy babies..they finished their GED's and got on their feet.
Yeah I admit, I can be co-dependant and want to bring everyone home with me.. But it is not just black and white.
Every single family is dysfunctional, one way or another..to point the finger at an abused person and judging them is Fk-ed Up..
Many families are indeed dysfunctional. My dad abused me and my two sisters, my mom was greatly abused. It didn’t mean my father didn’t deserve to work. My dad is passed, his abuse lives still in me today, I’m 61. I know abuse. I’m still sad for you and your fight!
Oh so sorry.. damn that is hard that he hurt you and your sister. Are you seeing a counselor? I am finally going at 61 years old because I was triggered by going in the house after 6 years.. .. I was the one who found the boy , and dead dad..blah be careful watching the video..it is creepy.
See we learned something about each other, maybe we will be friends.
I think until you live the brutality and control of a madman, you don't get it.
Your dad is gone but he left emotional scars.
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