That is my point.
The women here arent understanding that fact.
The women here have raised/are raising kids despite the fact that the kids' dads are dead beats. You'll excuse us if we look askance at non-custodial fathers who are complaining about how child support is spent, because we've heard those complaints a lot, and they usually come from men who either don't pay, or wouldn't pay anything at all if their feet weren't held to the coals.
Excuse me while I bust out my Tom Lyekis 101
Nobody asked the women here to open their legs and get pregnant. If you got pregnant to a deadbeat man, thats your fault. If condom or birth control fails thats your fault, especially if it wasnt planned.
All I am saying is the woman has no right to accept money given in the interest of the child to spend it on herself therefore, if such is the case and it is, the state should track it like an EBT and document how monies are spent.
What part are you not understanding?
The part that says LEGALLY her RIGHT is to spend it on anything she likes. You are not accepting the fact that child support is ordered by the court for the respondent to pay to the petitioner the sum of whatever it is. You may WISH that the state track it to document how the money is spent but there is nothing that mandates this be done. None.
Some states do not permit direct payment. In some states all child support goes to the state and the state sends the child support. In some states if mother is receiving state aid the child support goes to the state who then distributes the child support. In no case, whatsoever, even when paid directly by the state is there any tracking to make sure child support is used solely for the child. There is no tracking that makes sure the specific money paid to the state is used specifically for that child because money is fungible.
You just don't like it. You wish it were different. But it's not different so suck it up.