Ray From Cleveland
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I'm aware of that. It bothers me when people act like everyone is 100% in control of their own destiny, that it's all entirely up to you and that you should feel bad if you're not as rich as some other guy, particularly when that other guy had massive advantages over you simply by virtue of his birth.
Everybody is in charge of their own destiny, but that doesn't guarantee financial success.
Lower income people are generally less responsible. They don't pay attention in school, they don't have the inclination to work hard, they don't understand the first thing about finances, so of course many of them fail in life. Is that because they were born on first base instead of third, or is it because they decided to have their second child at the age of 18 and go on some social programs?
Instead of concentrating on being rich, it's better to concentrate on just being better and making decisions to better yourself.
Years ago I used to have a part-time job teaching music. From time to time, some student would walk into the studio all bummed out. They were completely upset because they went to some bar or someplace and seen a great guitarist. I told them that it's just a fact of life. No matter how hard you try, there is always going to be somebody with more money, a bigger D, and can play better guitar than you. I would tell them the only guitarist they have to be better than is the guitarist that was here last week at this very time.
It never failed. They eventually get a new attitude about being a musician and continued to just be better than they were the week before. That's what needs to be done with people who didn't start out in life with a lot of money.
Well that's fine. That's reasonable. What I'm saying is, sometimes the guy who's worse off than you isn't just a lazy slob or an idiot. Sometimes they started out with a lot less than you did, or just had shitty luck. The people act like those of modest means are just losers are the ones I am talking about.
And some people who are poor and need government assistance have just hit a rough patch and don't want to make a career out of it. In fact, I'd say the overwhelming majority are that way.
I would totally disagree with that.
Being financially sound is something anybody can achieve. Graduate from school, get a job, stay out of trouble with the law, don't have children you can't afford to support, and don't buy things you can't afford.
These simple things can be achieved by anybody; poor, middle-class, upper middle-class and the wealthy.
The problem with our poor is they've been convinced by Democrats that their poverty is not their fault. Of course it's their fault.
I'm from a middle-class suburban family. When I got out of school, I worked several minimum wage jobs. Unhappy with my income, I kept trying to increase my earnings. I finally ended up choosing a career where labor is in high demand under any economy. Now can you tell me why a poor person can't do what I did?
Instead of burdening myself with expenses like overpriced cars, homes, children, I decided not to marry or have children. It was several years after cable television came to our area before I ordered it. Why can't a poor person do what I did?
Poverty is not necessarily proportional to failure. Talk to some foreign business owners sometime. They will tell you what poverty is really like. Yet they came to this country with a hundred dollars in their pocket, did what I wrote above, used their money for investments instead, and are living the American dream that our native born so-called poverty people never had.
Because some people legitimately grow up in ghettos with drugs all around them, gang violence, little to no food for days, filthy living conditions, and extremely poor schools.
The difference between a childhood like that and even lower middle class is like night and day.
You were one of the lucky ones. Whether you believe it or not.
It's difficult to escape that kind of poverty, and most people don't have what it takes. Put your average middle class kid in that shit environment and he'd most likely crumble as well.
Middle class is still easy mode in the grand scheme of things.
Wah wah fucking wah.
Some of those people get their shit together and get out of that world, and some don't. Why is that? Here's a hint: the ones who get out aren't doing it because of your bleeding heart, patting them on the head and sobbing over how insurmountable their challenges are.
Nor does anyone get ahead by your casual dismissal of success as "just luck". There's no luck involved in Ray's careful assessment of his situation and informed choices based on that situation and his available assets. That's called "wisdom".
Can you really not see how destructive your pity, masquerading as "compassion", is? Would you advise your children, should you have any, that it's okay to simply focus on the negatives in life and give up the entire enterprise as a bad job? Do you really imagine that people with handicaps - REAL handicaps, not your "poor me, life didn't start me out halfway to the finish line, so I can't run the race at all" attitude - are anything but annoyed by those telling them how they "don't have what it takes"?
And by the way, it is amazingly elitist, condescending, and offensive of you to dismiss the vast majority of humans as "not having what it takes" and relegating them to helpless animal status. It is ironic that, in your rush to tout yourself as far more "caring" and "understanding" and "nice" than others, you have revealed yourself to hold far less respect for the poor than those others have.
Absolutely. People who are poor usually make excuses instead of changes. But if you go to a library, I dare you to find me one book written by a successful excuse maker. There is no such thing. All excuse makers are failures. The sooner the black community understands this, the sooner they can start changing their fate.