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1. RE Post to MB: "It would appear those are the things you want. Because you keep trying to tell me about black people . But I am black and face things blacks actually face. But according to you the issues I see as an actual black person cannot be. I must only accept what you say the issues are. And if I don't then I am the one who doesn't want understanding."
2. "Emily, no other race of people in America have done what whites have done and continue doing. All your attempts to make equivalences only allows racists to deny their problem."
Now we are REALLY getting to the point, IM2, thank you for clarifying and pushing the meaning and reasons behind what you say.
1. NOBODY should really expect to tell ANYONE their business.
You are not them. They are not you.
As one of my friends explained it "neurologically" as an atheist/humanist/relativist to an EXTREME,
each individual develops such intricate unique brain patterns conditioned with LANGUAGE and EXPERIENCES
that we can barely understand each other, we process information so differently.
It's amazing we communicate at all, and no wonder we conflict because of the sheer numbers of combinations
of "neural impulses" that can't POSSIBLY match up.
NOTE: this applies back to itself, IM2
Once "I am not you" then however YOU voice and express your objections,
even if it is nowhere NEAR the way "I would SAY the same thing"
that's your way that means something to you that NOBODY ELSE
on the PLANET, in the UNIVERSE, or any place in history or ETERNITY,
can replicate understand or "dictate" because NOBODY ELSE IS YOU.
Thus, you and anyone else, are NOT going to perfectly understand.
And if you already have this mode of addressing and talking with people,
including already clash with people who can't stand the way you say it,
that's not going to change "by talking to you outside your stated conditions."
2. As for "no other race in America doing what whites have done"
A. Neither has the good (or bad) that European descendants/Caucasians have done
been done by anyone else.
B. Neither has the good (or bad) that Black individuals have done been done by anyone else.
THIS ISN'T ABOUT FALSE EQUIVALENCIES
It's about taking EACH INDIVIDUAL PERSON and talking about what THAT PERSON does that is good or bad.
And if it is bad, how do we CORRECT the bad problem instead of "judging the person or group".
Bad problems involve FACTORS that can be corrected.
Race cannot be changed, it is genetic,
if you are saying the race is the problem, how is race causing that.
How is it genetics of the Chromosomes causing the criticized outcomes and behavior?
Wouldn't you say the conditioning, prejudice, or oppressive behavior and attitude
is in the mind or spirit, or is in societal institutions?
If so, THOSE CAN BE RESOLVED, and patterns from the past CAUSED by these factors
CAN BE CHANGED to be corrected and prevented, including restitution to restore justice.
3. Whatever problems you have with "white people dominating others" and "imposing their biases" and "justifying the same disparity to continue"
ALL THAT IS CAUSED BY INDIVIDUAL MINDSETS AND INSTITUTIONAL CONDITIONS THAT CAN CHANGE
It isn't the "race" in itself, but some CONDITIONING you are saying
such PEOPLE are carrying. This effects INDIVIDUALS first, and COLLECTIVELY
it affects "whole groups". The way human nature accepts change, the individuals
FORGIVE and let go of past patterns to ACCEPT and RECEIVE change and growth.
This starts in the mind or spirit of the person INDIVIDUALLY, then affects RELATIONS with others,
AND THEN IT AFFECTS THE COLLECTIVE INSTITUTIONS in a replicating ripple effect.
Do you understand I am NOT justifying or saying "it doesn't matter" or "it's all the same"
I'm saying it's the opposite: IT DOES MATTER BECAUSE
NO INDIVIDUALS ARE THE SAME.
WE ALL HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS SAME PROCESS TO CHANGE INSTITUTIONS.
So if you want "white people" and "white biases in institutions" to change,
it takes breaking down these "collective entities" back to
INDIVIDUAL INTERACTIONS ONE ON ONE.
Then people INCLUDING WHITES can take responsibility for changing themselves.
NOTE: IM2 if this is NOT your way, of "breaking things down to the individual molecules," you are right, that may be YOUR way because you are Black and you communicate COLLECTIVELY with your brothers and sisters in the struggle that only YOU understand and CAN REPRESENT.
if it's just more "white people way" to address "one on one" and take things "individually"
while grouping "collective perceptions" in a TOTALLY DIFFERENT WAY (including "false equivalencies")
then THAT IS NOT YOUR WAY.
So by this very dynamic, your way is uniquely you.
You call it being Black and part of that Black collective dynamic.
I see it as you individually expressing and just being you, including this as part of YOU.
So that's my "white cultural thinking" spelled out
in "Asian Emily" terms, where I mix both the "collective mentality" with the "individual unique language"
and likely offend both sides by trying to pick both apart
down to the molecules where I can understand them
from MY individual way, which is a mix of different cultures as well.
Thank you for accommodating my different way on here
that has some of the same elements as the "white people's way"
Sorry about that
The difference with me, individually as Emily, is that I FORGIVE whatever ways
you have and these other "white people" have that so offend and contradict each other.
I forgive that anyway, because I understand you have your own way of seeing and saying things, and so do they. And your language and meaning totally step on and impose on each other.
I think it's also a MALE thing, where men's responses are conditioned to
PROTECT THEIR TURF FROM OTHER MALE DOMINANCE
So there's THAT FACTOR going on as well.
I am guessing all of the "white or black" MEN on here would end up clashing more
with other MEN regardless of race, but part of that is GENDER.
You can't CHANGE the fact you are MALE
so that's another level to forgive.
Thank you for sharing and I hope you get more mileage out of this
thread than you asked or expected. We need more people like you
willing to spell it all out and share resources and information to bridge these gaps.
Keep up the informative posts, and transparent clarifications
that really help. Take care and I'll see you on the other side
of this barrier you are working to take down. Best wishes
and you have my support to keep fighting the good fight,
and overcoming any obstacles you face in this struggle.
Thanks!
No Emily it's not about being male. Some of the fiercest warriors against white racism have been black women. Ask Gladys. This nation was built on the idea of the collective while those in the controlling collective lied to themselves about individualism. We are talking about a macro level problem and individualism is a micro level belief.
Okay IM2 so when it comes to
A. Collective groups
1. White vs. Black it's all the fault of the Whites
(except with #3 Conservatives then Black Conservatives are abusive)
2. Men vs. Women it's BOTH (as long as they are White or Conservative)
3. Conservatives vs. liberals it's the Conservatives who are oppressive (whether they are Black or White, or Men or Women)
Is this what you are saying?
B. "Individualism" vs. Individuals
1. Whites abuse and lie about "individualism" when it is used COLLECTIVELY
2. What about working one on one with people INDIVIDUALLY.
This is not the same as making blanket generalizations using "individualism"
Can we break down "individualism"
into PARTICULAR cases where a person INDIVIDUALLY either
(a) makes a FALSE GENERALIZATION lying about or abusing "individualism"
(b) is actually fair in working one on one with oneself and another person
so this is actually treating both people with equal respect as individuals
Thank you IM2
Emily, I am only going to reply to your first comment because you are off topic.
Right wing blacks do nothing for progress in the black community. Second laws and public policy through the history of this nation have been made by whites that have caused the problems blacks/non-whites face today.
This is a hard cold fact.
I have posted concerns held by the black community and as usual I get the stupid. So if you don't want to discuss the specific concerns, feel free to start your own thread..