Dragonlady
Designing Woman
- Dec 1, 2012
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Yeah I dont get that one either. I've never had a problem working with women. I have to admit its way more fun working with women than men. They just see things differently and offer a different prospective that I love. Its always been the white guys that start talking shit about them and wanting me to join in. In the tech field white men hated having women being smarter than them.Never thought about it like that but youre right.In many ways, your philosophy can resonate with women when dealing with men.I cant help that nor do I feel not trusting whites has been a bad thing for me. Its actually kept me ahead of the game. Invariably whites will try to fuck you over. If you dont trust them you can set them up and come out on top.Well, if I (a white dude) personally had done it, you might have a point. Otherwise, it is racial bigotry at its finest.
In a discussion of the #metoo movement and a recent study saying men fear mentoring women in business because of allegations of sexual improprieties, one of the black women on the panel said that men are finding it difficult to navigate in a world where they are afraid to have what they are saying or doing misconstrued, or that they're giving off the wrong signals, and may leave themselves open to allegations of impropriety or which may permanent damage your career. Well, welcome to the world that women have been living in for all of our lives.
I find the people who whine about losing jobs to racial minorities are those who were hardly "top drawer" employees in the first place, and who couldn't compete with the rest of the white guys looking for the jobs and promotions. The idea that he has to compete with minorities and women now too, what chance does he have? Poor thing!
When I worked for the Bank, I had a number of men mentor me in various aspects of my work: the branch manager who promoted me to Loans Manager was the first, the District Loans Manager who supervised consumer lending at all branches within our District, and the Manager of Mortgages for Central Ontario division, all of whom assisted my career advancement in becoming one of the first female bank managers in Canada. This mentorship included business dinners, and travel, and I can truthfully say that not once ever did any of these men ever give me reason to believe that their interest in me was anything but professional. I've always had a hard and fast rules about not getting involved with co-workers or married men. It's always worked well for me.
And while I endured a great deal of sexual harassment in the workplace during those years, it was along the lines of other junior management coworkers getting in my face and saying things like "You're just blocking a good training position for some talented guy on his way up", or "Why did you get that job instead of a man?" rather than some guy trying to get into my pants. I was winning achievement awards and getting promotions. They were really threatened.
I'm just not buying the bullshit that men can't work with women without somebody getting their signals mixed up.