Then that is who you should tentatively take steps with. Ask her out for lunch. Not dinner. Maybe a cup of coffee. Or to the park to feed the birds. Find out her interests. Maybe the movies?One thing that worries me is that if I stop looking, that cuts my chances of finding a good woman. There is one woman who does take herself seriously and values herself, and is emotionally mature, and is tackling her school debt all by herself, and is mapping out a plan for her future... and she and I had Thanksgiving dinner with our RN friend and her family. I think she was trying to set us up, because she remarks on how absolutely cute we two are together constantly. She is 24 and pursuing nursing, and I am 27 and pursuing nursing.
You CANNOT fix broken people. That is your problem. Therein lies the clue. You want to fix. If you fix, you are....the fixer and she will miraculously be repaired and you live happily ever after. Ain't gonna happen.
I am old now. But lemme tell ya...I've been around the block a few times. Probably a couple of hundred times. Guys like you are easy pickin's. Women can zone in on that real quick. If they are broken...all the better to find a naive guy like you to use. So now that you know where your problem is...work on it. YOU CANNOT FIX BROKEN WOMEN. So stop trying. You can feel bad for them, but keep your distance. Don't get involved.
A door has squeaked open with your mutual RN friend. Push it open a bit wider and take a peek and let her take a peek at you. Coffee. Park. Movie. Lunch. Dinner after a few coffee "dates". Invite the RN friend to come along so it is more at ease for her..and you.
Watch Frasier episodes, lol. Learn from him. He had a hard time too. But he finally prevailed.