I find it so funny how most women wont date a man who still lives at home with his mom but will.....

[WinterBorn]

Is that so you can cheat?

cheating is like, soo overrated. having permission is more conducive to Happiness.

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

 

[Bonzi]

cheating is like, soo overrated. having permission is more conducive to Happiness.

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

 

[WinterBorn]

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

 

[Bonzi]

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

 

[danielpalos]

I didn't mean that a woman was looking for someone to take care of her. More that he can take care of himself and not need her to do that. Plus, women often complain that their man expects them to be his mom, in addition to being a partner. This might be another reason they dislike a guy still at home.

Everyone is different.
My ideal man would be a go getter, busy, away from home a lot ....

Is that so you can cheat?

cheating is like, soo overrated. having permission is more conducive to Happiness.

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

i think it is even more interesting to resort to the fewest fallacies; simply because all of the other ones are soo good at making excuses, instead of getting results.

 

[danielpalos]

Is that so you can cheat?

cheating is like, soo overrated. having permission is more conducive to Happiness.

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

How is it greener in a poly relationship?

 

[Bonzi]

cheating is like, soo overrated. having permission is more conducive to Happiness.

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

How is it greener in a poly relationship?

It's not.. I missed the "poly" part when I first read it.
In a poly, all grass is available.... (if consensual) -- isn't it funny how "sensual" is in the word "consensual"...?

 

[ChrisL]

I agree, it's HOT when it's ok to do it

that is interesting .... many people like to CHEAT better (because it's forbidden, naughty)......

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

I don't think "maturity" has anything to do with it. Just different strokes, you know?

 

[danielpalos]

i think it is even funnier how women won't come up to mostly nice guys and honestly tell them it is their turn to them; but, will go get used by all of the other ones.

 

[Bonzi]

i think it is even funnier how women won't come up to mostly nice guys and honestly tell them it is their turn to them; but, will go get used by all of the other ones.

This is an interesting point.... women want to believe in prince charming and the fairy tale. As long as the "bubble is not burst" they will persist. Honesty is not the best policy, especially if you are not willing to give the girl the fairy tale........

 

[WinterBorn]

I prefer the open, honest life of a poly. All the fun and none of the hassles.

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

 

[Bonzi]

That's good if you are attracted to and enjoy the company of your spouse - many don't, and some just won't because the grass always looks greener....

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

Dating and courting is the best! And whatever happens....no pressure

 

[WinterBorn]

If I wasn't attracted to her or didn't enjoy her company, I wouldn't be with her.

But we are polyamorous. We believe we can love more than one person. In other words, we can both date and have playmates.

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

Dating and courting is the best! And whatever happens....no pressure

Exactly. If you are just looking for extra sex, be a swinger. Poly is more about relationships.

 

[Bonzi]

Oh okay, I read over your post too quickly Didn't catch that the first time.

It takes two very mature, secure people to pull that off - obviously, as a Christian, that is not a workable situation for me! I think I'm a "one and done" person regarding marriage. I don't think I'd like a poly situation, my expectations of people are SUPER high, so high no one could meet them, thus, the one and done .......

From a strictly secular viewpoint, if you and your wife are happy and enjoy your lifestyle, more power to you!

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

Dating and courting is the best! And whatever happens....no pressure

Exactly. If you are just looking for extra sex, be a swinger. Poly is more about relationships.

Dangerous game....

 

[WinterBorn]

Jealousy can be an issue, that is true. We don't seem to have that problem, and we make sure we each know that we are the primary love.

But our way allows us to love people who do not live up to high expectations. Whatever shortcomings are in one person are made up for in another.

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

Dating and courting is the best! And whatever happens....no pressure

Exactly. If you are just looking for extra sex, be a swinger. Poly is more about relationships.

Dangerous game....

No, I don'tthink so. Everyone knows where the primary relationship is, and they know the score on all counts.

 

[Bonzi]

Just out of curiosity, do you limit it to other married people, or, do you have no limits?

Whether the other person is married, involved in a relationship or single doesn't matter. It matters very much that everyone involved is aware of what is going on. No "secret" dates.

And it really is about dates. Not just sex. In fact, there may be no sex.

Dating and courting is the best! And whatever happens....no pressure

Exactly. If you are just looking for extra sex, be a swinger. Poly is more about relationships.

Dangerous game....

No, I don'tthink so. Everyone knows where the primary relationship is, and they know the score on all counts.

It can happen.....emotions and relationships are not controllable

 

[danielpalos]

i think it is even funnier how women won't come up to mostly nice guys and honestly tell them it is their turn to them; but, will go get used by all of the other ones.

This is an interesting point.... women want to believe in prince charming and the fairy tale. As long as the "bubble is not burst" they will persist. Honesty is not the best policy, especially if you are not willing to give the girl the fairy tale........

Who wouldn't want all of the sexual wealth they can handle. Only wo-men are worthless enough in the non-porn sector to lie about it.

 

[danielpalos]

if only, we could find nice girls who are willing to be friends.

 

[Bonzi]

if only, we could find nice girls who are willing to be friends.

....with benefits

 

[mudwhistle]

Don't forget the same for men who date women who still live with their husbands...

How many husbands?