Jarlaxle
Gold Member
It's sad that you both made it through 18 years of marriage and are calling it quits.
Finances seems to be the number 2 reason for divorce, so it makes sense.
It is good you are remaining friends.
I think it's the arrival of middle age that's made the differences in our financial attitudes so painfully obvious. He has grown more and more comfortable with a "We can afford to pay the utilities and buy food, so that's good enough" attitude, while I have become increasingly more nervous about the passage of time and impending retirement (and anyone who thinks 20 years isn't impending when you're talking about preparing your finances for retirement is crazy). I don't want to wind up like my mom, working my ass off until I'm 70 and then scraping by on Social Security and sharing a house with a permanently-single child (my older brother). God willing, NONE of my children will be without spouses and families, and I have no desire to live with any of them until I'm too senile to be aware of it.
Meanwhile, he's still a good person, and we still have a four-year-old son who's going to need both of his parents working together for his benefit for many years yet (the older two are basically done with active parenting). We could make an ugly battle out of it, but the only people that would benefit would be lawyers.
hurumph....'middle age'....yea, been there, done that.
I bought a Mustang then a Cobra, she remade herself physically and spiritually.
then a few years later we both looked at each other and laughed, like what the hell are we doing? .......and both admitted we had the middle age jitters.
we didn't 'diverge' on issues though....thats a biggey. Being 'comfortable' is relative eh?![]()
Since we got married (17 years next month), I have lost my hair, my knees, and my good vision. I found a gray hair in my beard last weekend. Liz still has 40/20 vision, her hair is still jet-black, she looks exactly like she does in our wedding reception photo except for a tattoo on her shoulder. How the hell do women DO that?!