Amanda
Calm as a Hindu cow
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Of course. Parents should have knowledge of the procedure being undertaken.
Can you tell us why you think so?
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Of course. Parents should have knowledge of the procedure being undertaken.
Can you tell us why you think so?
I don't know why, but this cracks me up. Kind of a tacky gift, but I can't see anything wrong with it. If you don't want to buy one, don't.
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Because any medical procedure has inherent risk associated with it, many are invasive to one extent or another. When you are dealing with a child, it seems to me self-evident that the parents who are legally responsible for that child's well being need to have knowledge of it.
Who says they don't offer them year round?Why do you think they don't offer these wonderful gift certificates year round?
You are amused by it, probably because you enjoy watching the religious right become apoplectic. I'd much rather nurture a little mutual respect.
I can see it seems self-evident to you.
I was hoping for something that would help me understand it better. I can understand why a parent would feel that way. And I can understand that in a lot of cases it would be the best thing. But what about those times when it's not the best thing? Can you think of anyway that things could be structured so that parents could have the most control but kids could still have choices?
Weren't you earlier advocating that it should be all right for that nurse to interfere between the parents and the child by keeping her molestation and impregnation by a 31-year-old man secret, just because the parents MIGHT be upset at her? NOW you're concerned about the state having the ability to take children away from unfit parents?
The government already takes babies away from their parents, and they decide which ones are the "right" ones to do that with by a standard based on the laws of what is and is not acceptable parental behavior. And yes, sometimes they really suck at maintaining this standard. Nevertheless, they don't just decide on a whim, and it is those who pass child abuse laws who decide what is right in the first place.
Personally, I think too many kids think sex is no big deal. We need to get back to educating our children that sex is the most intimate contact you can have with another person, outside of giving birth to them, and that it shouldn't just be random and without meaning.
Should it? No matter what?
Does this hold true in those cases where a child needs medical treatment and the parents decide to pray instead?
Why do you think they don't offer these wonderful gift certificates year round?
You are amused by it, probably because you enjoy watching the religious right become apoplectic. I'd much rather nurture a little mutual respect.
Some parents should know if their child is having sex or have a plan in place in the event their child is having sex. My two friends who got pregnant in high school parents had their heads so far stuck in the sand it is a wonder they could breath. Plus most fourteen year old girls would probably choose to do something stupid and harmful then tell their parents that they were pregnant and wanted an abortion.Of course. Parents should have knowledge of the procedure being undertaken.
In this situation, if a child sought life-saving medical intervention, and the parents refused, the child could ask for access to a guardian ad litem from the court to ensure that the child's best interests were protected. Parents DO NOT have a right to deprive their child of LIFE SAVING medical care because of their religious beliefs. In fact, parents have been charged with abuse/neglect for doing so.
Some parents should know if their child is having sex or have a plan in place in the event their child is having sex. My two friends who got pregnant in high school parents had their heads so far stuck in the sand it is a wonder they could breath. Plus most fourteen year old girls would probably choose to do something stupid and harmful then tell their parents if they had to do that they were pregnant and wanted an abortion.
In this situation, if a child sought life-saving medical intervention, and the parents refused, the child could ask for access to a guardian ad litem from the court to ensure that the child's best interests were protected. Parents DO NOT have a right to deprive their child of LIFE SAVING medical care because of their religious beliefs. In fact, parents have been charged with abuse/neglect for doing so.
There are certain sociobiological realities underlying forms of sexual contact in all societies of course, and essentially every culture has some standard of sexual morality. Indeed, even chimpanzees appear to have some sexual standard or etiquette. But to a very great extent, the "intimate content" bit is a social construct imposed by Christianity and Islam. There are numerous ethnological studies of smaller cultures, now dominated by the two largest religions in the world, in which such a stringent standard and view of sexual contact as "intimate" did not exist. If I recall correctly, the Cherokee mated freely, for instance. Margaret Mead observed that the early Samoans placed few sexual taboos on young adolescents, and that sexual contact was largely viewed as casual, and was both common and healthy among many. She did go a bit overboard in attempting to apply her observations to sexual standards of Western society, though.
The Pro Lifers think all that Planned Parenthood does is to piss them off!lolI have no problem with the gift certificates. Grocery stores, gas stations, tax offices all offer gift certificates so why not health clinics? While they are not making a statement by allowing the certificates to be used for any service Planned Parenthood offers, the certainly would be making a statement if they allowed if for all services but abortion.
I do not think Planned Parenthood did it to piss of the pro-lifers (although I'm sure that some Planned Parenthood employees are thrilled that it does), I think they did it to make money off of the holiday season and hopefully, provide health care to women who need it.
I'm gonna go out a limb and say this was when life expectancy was 20 or 30 years old and before the prevelance of diseases which can kill you if you have sex with the wrong person.
I think once you are an adult you can have sex as freely and with as many people as you want as long as you do so safely. more power to ya. Fuck like bunnies.
However, children, and I'm talking from 16 on down, aren't emotionally OR physically mature enough to handle the ramifications that come along with being a sexually active person. Hell there are some adults who can't handle it.
The problem I see is that we've robbed our children of the opportunity to BE children for as long as possible. I didn't even think about sex until I was 15, didn't kiss my first boy until 13 and didn't have sex until I was 17. That was the norm when I was growing up. But I see Amanda saying she started kissing and experimenting with boys at 11 and then having sex a "few" years later which I take to mean 13 or 14 years old. She says that's the norm now. She's one generation removed from my time as a teenager (I'm 40) so that tells you how vastly society has changed in a short period of time.
You would think that the attitudes about sex would've gotten more provincial with the introduction of AIDS, herpes, and other sexually transmitted diseases being so widely discussed in the open. But it seems to have had the oppposite effect. Almost like kids are taunting fate...daring nature to strike.
It's sad how casual the subject has become.
To the extent that that's the case, I don't think it ought to apply to only one age group, as legal adults certainly have no protection from AIDS. I might even say that the vigor of the young would enable them to more effectively deal with its symptoms.
I'll openly say that I wasn't so different from Amanda in terms of early experimentation, and it's uncannily similar that we both had early sexual experiences at church functions. (Of course, the idea that they're chaste is largely a myth.) But again, this isn't about individuals.
I think the "robbed of childhood" assertion is directly OPPOSITE of what the case actually is. Childhood has actually been extended to a point far beyond its biological end, and a mass array of legal restrictions have been placed on young adults that did not previously exist, thus creating the social construct of adolescence.
I'm not sure your response sufficiently addressed the reality that the "emotional component" of sexual activity is largely a social construct, and even if it weren't, what specific evidence do you have that younger adolescents are too emotionally immature to engage in it?
EDIT: Regarding the issue of life expectancy, if the average human lifespan were to be extended to 150 or so through scientific advancements, would you advocate that adolescence and the age of majority be extended to age 30 or so? Isn't that parallel to the system you currently support?
I mostly agree with this but I think for a different reason than you do. See next section...However, children, and I'm talking from 16 on down, aren't emotionally OR physically mature enough to handle the ramifications that come along with being a sexually active person. Hell there are some adults who can't handle it.
I think think just the opposite. I think we try to keep people as young and naive as possible in our culture. In the past, and in other cultures, people were considered adults much younger than they are now in the US.The problem I see is that we've robbed our children of the opportunity to BE children for as long as possible.
I don't know if it's the norm, but I wasn't the only one. I'm sure things are different from place to place. I grew up in a rural area and there really wasn't much else to do besides get high (which a lot of kids did too).I didn't even think about sex until I was 15, didn't kiss my first boy until 13 and didn't have sex until I was 17. That was the norm when I was growing up. But I see Amanda saying she started kissing and experimenting with boys at 11 and then having sex a "few" years later which I take to mean 13 or 14 years old. She says that's the norm now. She's one generation removed from my time as a teenager (I'm 40) so that tells you how vastly society has changed in a short period of time.
I think it's just thinking nothing will happen to them. Our lives were boring. Boring today, boring yesterday, how will tomorrow be different? This place never changes. That kind of thinking. Does that make sense?You would think that the attitudes about sex would've gotten more provincial with the introduction of AIDS, herpes, and other sexually transmitted diseases being so widely discussed in the open. But it seems to have had the oppposite effect. Almost like kids are taunting fate...daring nature to strike.
I don't know, I think it's good for it to be something that can be talked about more openly. That's got to be a result of more casualness.It's sad how casual the subject has become.
This is exactly it! They can't. It's like an attempt to keep them from doing adult things by denying them the means to support themselves or legally make their own decisions.Your argument is flawed insomuch as unless these same children are willing and able to go get jobs and support themselves and whatever offspring they may produce then they shouldn't be having sex!