Trauma Memory - I Remember Every Detail. What's with the #Metoo's Forgetfulness?

[Darkwind]

Been robbed. Been jumped. Looked down the wrong end of a gun barrel. Nothing like some people have been through, including people who have been sexually assaulted. But these moments are frozen in my mind, because they play over and over like a movie. I hear the same and worse from Iraq bros, will never forget the screams, the pattern of blood on the ground, the torn limb. Exactly and concisely. Never.

So all I'm saying is I am very concerned with sex violence and am glad more women are coming out. I support #Metoo. But I'm leery when details don't match, or an alleged survivor contradicts her story, and the feminist shrinks come out and play the Trauma Memory card. I despise Kavanaugh's politics. I don't want him confirmed based on his political beliefs. But you can't ruin a man based on "I think this happened or that" and be getting it all wrong. Where are the shrinks who say No, that's not the way it is with trauma at all. When the adrenaline is flowing and you think you are about to die, your mind takes a picture of every little last thing you may never see again. I think that's more the way it works.

Mighty convenient for convicting a man. If his story doesn't add up he's lying. If her's doesn't it's trauma memory. If you don't remember something, ok. But you don't get to fill in the blanks.

Everyone is just like you?

Every account of women who are sexually assaulted or raped -- at least the ones that are not lying -- can recall the moment with exacting details.

It is seared into their mind. That is why the crime is so heinous and the victims never truly recover. They simply learn to cope with the trauma.

Anyone who has any training or education in traumatic events knows and understands this.

It is why Dr. Ford is not credible. In fact, more people need to question her truthfulness.

 

[ptbw forever]

Because those details don’t matter to you. All you care about is that a gun was pointed in your face and that you didn’t die that day.

For me I was drowning in a wave pool in the shallow end because the waves were abnormally high and there were a ton of people in donut-shaped rafts who kept getting flung towards me and eventually buried me under the waves after I was knocked off balance when I was frantically searching for my brother.

The only reason why I remember this is because it all lead up to my drowning and the eventual rescue. If I had just fallen in the pool accidentally I wouldn’t remember half of my surroundings.

Just like I remember when I was playing with a hoolahoop and wanted to see if the 2 neighborhood kids could slide through it on a slide in my backyard, and when I tried to do it they didn’t hold the loop low enough and I almost crushed my windpipe while they freaked out until my mom came outside after I was able to yell for her.

Just like I remember my first gocart experience at an indoor fun park in Pigeon Forge after thinking that owning my own gocart was going to be the coolest thing ever and watching my younger brother easily drive slower carts and ending up hitting the gas(going up to 15 or 20 miles an hour is scary for a young kid who doesn’t understand the brake mechanics and the concept of slowly letting off the gas), flying by the other kids kids for a few laps, and then deciding to use the broken down McDonalds car to stop my myself.

I will NEVER forget that these and many other things happened to me as an elementary school kid and younger.

Do you remember the dates & times that each of them occurred and if you do is there any corroborating documentation?

No, because I largely didn’t care about dates at that time.

I was a kid, these kinds of things happen to kids, and most people will remember when they have near-death experiences as kids.

 

[munkle]

Been robbed. Been jumped. Looked down the wrong end of a gun barrel. Nothing like some people have been through, including people who have been sexually assaulted. But these moments are frozen in my mind, because they play over and over like a movie. I hear the same and worse from Iraq bros, will never forget the screams, the pattern of blood on the ground, the torn limb. Exactly and concisely. Never.

So all I'm saying is I am very concerned with sex violence and am glad more women are coming out. I support #Metoo. But I'm leery when details don't match, or an alleged survivor contradicts her story, and the feminist shrinks come out and play the Trauma Memory card. I despise Kavanaugh's politics. I don't want him confirmed based on his political beliefs. But you can't ruin a man based on "I think this happened or that" and be getting it all wrong. Where are the shrinks who say No, that's not the way it is with trauma at all. When the adrenaline is flowing and you think you are about to die, your mind takes a picture of every little last thing you may never see again. I think that's more the way it works.

Mighty convenient for convicting a man. If his story doesn't add up he's lying. If her's doesn't it's trauma memory. If you don't remember something, ok. But you don't get to fill in the blanks.

Everyone is just like you?

Every account of women who are sexually assaulted or raped -- at least the ones that are not lying -- can recall the moment with exacting details.

It is seared into their mind. That is why the crime is so heinous and the victims never truly recover. They simply learn to cope with the trauma.

Anyone who has any training or education in traumatic events knows and understands this.

It is why Dr. Ford is not credible. In fact, more people need to question her truthfulness.

Yep.

 

[Pogo]

Been robbed. Been jumped. Looked down the wrong end of a gun barrel. Nothing like some people have been through, including people who have been sexually assaulted. But these moments are frozen in my mind, because they play over and over like a movie. I hear the same and worse from Iraq bros, will never forget the screams, the pattern of blood on the ground, the torn limb. Exactly and concisely. Never.

So all I'm saying is I am very concerned with sex violence and am glad more women are coming out. I support #Metoo. But I'm leery when details don't match, or an alleged survivor contradicts her story, and the feminist shrinks come out and play the Trauma Memory card. I despise Kavanaugh's politics. I don't want him confirmed based on his political beliefs. But you can't ruin a man based on "I think this happened or that" and be getting it all wrong. Where are the shrinks who say No, that's not the way it is with trauma at all. When the adrenaline is flowing and you think you are about to die, your mind takes a picture of every little last thing you may never see again. I think that's more the way it works.

Mighty convenient for convicting a man. If his story doesn't add up he's lying. If her's doesn't it's trauma memory. If you don't remember something, ok. But you don't get to fill in the blanks.

Everyone is just like you?

Every account of women who are sexually assaulted or raped -- at least the ones that are not lying -- can recall the moment with exacting details.

It is seared into their mind. That is why the crime is so heinous and the victims never truly recover. They simply learn to cope with the trauma.

Anyone who has any training or education in traumatic events knows and understands this.

It is why Dr. Ford is not credible. In fact, more people need to question her truthfulness.

That doesn't follow. Her description gave those exacting details. Stairwell, music, bed position, laughter. That's exactly why she was deemed to BE credible.

You described trauma memory accurately, and she met it, so how exactly do you take that to the opposite conclusion?