oldfart
Older than dirt
Who said that? The point was that some kids need it sometimes.The other position is a rigid unwillingness to believe that children raised without physical punishment could ever turn out OK.
That specific sentence was based on many conversations I have participated in IRL. The statement that physical punishment is necessary to proper child rearing has explicitly been made in this thread several times. If you you want to confirm that, they are not hard to find. So I am not answering a straw man (and I wish it were a straw man!).
That made no sense. A spanking probably won't instantly turn the child into a model citizen. You could use your argument about any form of punishment. What do you mean "if it doesn't work"? Growing up is a process, it doesn't happen in a day.Some posters seem to realize this and don't want to go there. For them I ask, "If spanking doesn't work, and you don't want to escalate, what do you do? And why, if that works, don't you do it instead of spanking in the first place?"
Any corrective action has failed when the child does not appropriately modify their behavior. Sometimes this requires some time to determine. If Johnny throws things at his sister and is corrected, and subsequently does not throw things at his sister, the correction was successful. This is true even if Johnny throws a tantrum and rolls on the floor screaming when corrected. I don't think we are in disagreement here.
I posit that kids are more undisciplined than ever so your theory is a bunch of bull.I posit that those defending physical punishment simply can't admit that any other way could ever work for anyone, because to admit it is to admit their actions were unnecessary.
First, I was sloppy in my language. I meant to say "those who insist that physical punishment is required to rear children successfully" rather than "those who defend physical punishment". IOW my objection is not with parents using and defending physical punishment, but with those who argue that it is required to rear children properly.
Most kids were spanked, so if they are undisciplined, spanking does not seem to correct them. I know of many highly successful, happy, self-confident, and productive individuals who were never physically disciplined as a child. You seem to persist in thinking that these people do not exist. Why do you spend so much effort trying to deny this existence? Does it threaten you to admit they exist?
I have no problem with parents who use limited physical punishment for correction with young children. I think it has drawbacks, and there are better methods, but I won't condemn those who use it or argue that their children are irreparably damaged. There can be more than one style of parenting that works. Why are you defending the extremist position? And isn't this the very position you started your post with by accusing me of creating it as a straw man?
Why not just admit that some parents don't use physical punishment and that it can work out? That doesn't mean that you or anybody else needs to do so also. And why blame the perceived ills of society on this issue?
Looks like you picked an extreme view to argue with, although I must have missed the individual that said that.So if you want to use limited physical punishment in your childrearing, that's one thing. But to claim that somehow everyone who doesn't must be lying or produce worthless children is simple self-delusion, and a pathetic one at that.
If it's so extreme, why are you arguing for it?