Children cannot understand those lines. They are not yet capable and further, I would suggest they never grow to understand right and wrong even into adulthood if they aren't taught those lessons as kids. Witness the insane incarceration rate among fatherless young men.
Authoritarian over a child? Heck yes. The consequences of doing otherwise are devastating.
The parent-as-friend thing doesn't work. Never has, never will.
The important part: My parents NEVER hit me. Not once. Didn't need to because I knew in no uncertain terms that if I crossed certain lines, that's exactly what would happen. No way my undeveloped brain as a child would have comprehended a rational plea to "be good and play nice". There MUST be consequences to motivate a child to do the right thing.
No, I mean Authoritarian by nature. The philosophy that Authority is always right and that 'might makes right'.... even the longing to be told what to do.
Then I disagree. I only suggest parents should be free to be authoritarians over their children because that's what kids need to understand those lines.
Then you're giving kids no credit for comprehension. Apparently you view them as something like cattle, I dunno. But your praise for the practice would seem to indicate it's part of your belief system, whether in any particular case you were the Authority or the Authoritee.
Say, if your parents "never hit you - not once" then on what possible basis could you conclude "that's what would happen"?
Because my father made it CRYSTAL clear that is exactly what would happen...multiple times, with great specificity. As a child, I may not have grasped the fine nuances between moral conundrums and issues of integrity, but I sure as heck could understand that if I ever hit my sister or my mother, I was in for an spanking of monumental proportions.
It worked.
It worked because you believed what you were told without any backup of it. What if you took the obvious cynicism that 'talk is cheap'? Doesn't seem 'crystal clear' at all if it actually never happened. I think again that exhibits a belief in Authoritarianism. Absent that belief, you wouldn't take an empty threat seriously.
That in no way follows. Your logic shoots itself in the foot, to borrow one of our typically sadistic metaphors.
Wrong. It makes perfect sense. It follows perfectly. And there is nothing sadistic of about informing a child that he will be cracked across the butt for crossing lines he should not cross. In fact, that kind of life guidance is born of love and caring, not sadism. The alternative is that the kid crosses those line and fails in life. Now THAT'S sadistic!
Yeah, "cracked across the butt". Feel the love. Please.
Maybe the allusion to Judeo-Christianist worldview applies here too...
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As I said --- does not follow. This is Doublethink.
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