WinterBorn
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- Nov 18, 2011
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Great, you are not gay and did not adopt, you responded to my post as if your situation was what I was speaking of when it was not.You are gay and adopted children?Wow, these unfortunate children obviously were in no condition to object to what you forced upon them.Yes- I can see why you would object to homosexual men adopting these boys abandoned by their parents
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They first fostered 18 years ago. Then, the idea of two men adopting a child was uncommon, which is partly what led them to foster when, due to Andrew's experience with children with special needs, they were asked if they would look after a boy with severe disabilities. "He wasn't expected to live to his first birthday, although he eventually lived until he was seven and a half," says Andrew.
The death of a child will always be traumatic, but Andrew and David felt compelled to continue.
"He'd taught us so much and we'd developed so many skills … we thought, we can't just leave it. We've got to do something with this knowledge. That's when we decided to carry on fostering children with profound disabilities and terminal conditions."
The couple contacted Credo Care, an organisation that specialises in disability foster placements. Shortly after, Armand arrived.
"He arrived in March, 10 years ago," explains David. Born in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, six-year-old Armand had lived in hospital for most of his short life. A wheelchair user, he has severe learning disabilities, a tracheotomy and is fed through a Peg [percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy].
"He came to us when he was six and was the first one to arrive. Four months later, we had an emergency phone call, asking us if we'd take a boy from Derby. Luke arrived that afternoon. He was 12 and had Duchenne muscular dystrophy. In those days he could shuffle around, but now, he's totally … well, the disease has got hold of his body. He's 22 now. He's a great lad, he really is. He's brilliant."
A couple of months after Luke joined the household, the couple were asked to take Steven, who was five and had cerebral palsy and learning difficulties. They have looked after the three boys ever since. Two years ago, they adopted a little girl. Sadly, she wasn't well and didn't live long.
"We had 17 wonderful months," says David. "She was three when she died. It was just 10 days after the adoption was completed, and it was very sudden, so … we haven't gone down that road again," he adds, choosing his words carefully to describe what must have been a devastating experience.
Gay foster carers I love every minute of it Life and style The Guardian
Child Abuse, nothing more.
The closest thing to abuse that my children had to deal with was assholes who think they have a say in other people's relationships and closed-minded idiots who think gays cannot raise kids in a loving and stable home. And that was from outside the home. Inside they suffered no abuse whatsoever.
No. But I saw my 3 children living in a home with 2 lesbians and they grew up fine.
Gay couples do a great job raising kids. If they abuse them, then burn them for pedophilia. But the simple fact that they are gay does not change their ability to provide a loving, supportive home for their adopted kids.
The kids in any home should not see their parents having sex. The rest is the same, whether it is a man and a woman, 2 men or 2 women.
I did not speak of Children seeing parents having sex? Why is that an issue that you must address while responding to me?
There are many forms of Abuse, homosexual abuse is not what I spoke of.
Sorry that you automatically feel everything we discuss about Homosexuality and Children is about sex.
If it is not about sex, then there is no difference between a gay couple and a straight couple raising those kids.
I am not wading thru 1100+ posts of vitriolic nonsense to catch up. If you have a reason why gay couples are abusive, other than the fact that they love someone of the same gender, then say it. Otherwise you are just another hater spewing nonsense.
No, I am not gay and my kids were not adopted by a gay couple. But they were largely raised by a gay couple. And at ages 8, 9, and 11, they had no say in my wife and I divorcing. But they had a happy childhood and were well taken care fo, despite any claims anyone else makes.