Dhara
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You make many really good points. I guess if it's possible to just get curious and interested when hitting a bad sticking point with someone and to have a light heart with arguments, then it's enjoyable.Emily,
I admire your fortitude in trying to get a point across to Sassy. What I have to do is pull back enough so that my heart opens. And it's important to choose your battles wisly. Decide who is worth it and who isn't.
Kudos.
Dhara
Hi Dhara I usually try different angles till the other person says yes or no. Trial and error. I can't read minds, but I learn with each person who requires saying it a different way to make sense to both of us.
As for trolls, I see those as an exercise and a challenge.
To figure out what is really going on and try to communicate to that point.
They either run away or they show their cards and leak what is really their core issue.
If I can get the toughest case to open up and explain what works and doesn't,
that makes it easier when I run into similar. We both help each other understand a new viewpoint.
If they give up first and run away, I can't help that.
I can just ensure I'm not the one running away from an opportunity to learn from
someone who thinks totally different from me, so I have that much more to learn.
Too often I've wasted so much time in action/reaction with political opponents who make every conversation personal.
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