Why are right wingers so obsessed about other people's private lives?
It's actually quite the opposite, we don't care about your private life, to include queer activities. Homos are free to be in any gay marriage ceremonies they want, nothing is stopping them and no one has ever proposed stopping them. Just don't ask us to condone such behavior and reward it with state recognition and entitlements that go with it.
We are not asking you to condone anything.
Just that a same gender couple be treated legally exactly the same as my wife and I are when it comes to marriage law.