aris2chat
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When was the last time you went to psychiatrist?
and what of the other 88% of transgenders who were not abused?
The percent of abuse is only a fractions higher than that of other children and the majority of children abused are female.
>>sexual abuse does not "cause" heterosexual youth to become LGBTQ<<
About 10 years ago I was in debate with a guy who was married to a woman. He decided to "go transgender". Had the surgery, all of it. He looked hideous. But also said he was still attracted to women sexually; as many of them still are. After pages and pages of very excruciating back and forth, involvement with moderators coddling him and so forth, the truth finally came out. He admitted that because he had a smaller penis than boys back in grade school gym class, he felt inadequate. They teased & taunted him so that he began to hate males in general altogether. Being male himself, that meant his own equipment. So, he deduced it had to go. But he was still depressed afterwards. The "treatment" didn't change that at all. And of course, his wife was talking about leaving him at that time. Not sure if she ever did.
When waxing poetic about "being a woman finally" all he would talk about was how gaudy his clothing would be, the extremes of what he saw as the opposite of what he hated...high heels, tons of makeup, everything pink pink pink, long nails and on and on and on. Those are not universal themes of being female BTW. They are only the stereotypes he had in his mind being raised in America. So that was what he thought "would finally make him not male".
And he had not told this to his therapists BTW. He had coerced them to believe he was one of the ones you seem to think belong to the 88% who didn't suffer abuse. Abuse can take many forms; not all of them easily detected on a simple form before one is admitted for surgical amputation of one's penis and testicles. Turns out his was peer abuse. But I can imagine a boy seeing a horribly violent stepfather or another set of males beating up on people or any other extremely negative association with the stereotype grown in his mind as "being male" would lead him in certain extreme cases to want to change his gender to the stereotypical "western female" one. And it's a "fix" that doesn't work to root out the actual problem of the mind.
Doctors know this, and hence the waiver. That they would take money to do what they know is wrong is a criminal offense and gross malpractice.
If he felt inadiquate he could have had phalloplasty instead of having it removed
Your attitude is based on one case of one transgender you "knew"
I'm sure there is more to this story that you are not privy to or not telling
How long did he live as a woman before surgery? What were his expectations before getting the surgery?
How much testing and counseling did he get before beginning hormones?
How many transgenders had his doctors treated before him?
What other conditions did he have before he considered he was transgender?